So there I was thinking about posting on r/bisexual and then I saw the comments on the sub: “How does being a transphobic cishet white guy with a vagina feel?” What? There were many transphobic comments like this? Well of course there were, they were the kind that just think that I have to do whatever I want to be if I don't like the genitals of a girl, so why are you calling me a bigot and not even bothering to check my profile? I'm sorry, I'm not a transphobe, I'm just being a reasonable human. But I just cannot stand being told “your genitals are so hot, you're not even allowed to be mad about it because of what I said” I'm not transphobic but I just can't stand being told “your genitals are so hot” just because they think that I have to be happy about my genitalia? Why are you asking for more than me just telling you that your genitals are so hot and I am willing to date your genitals because I think that you are a valid man because I am just a trans person, so why don't you get my permission to be happy about it? Also I'm not going to say that my vagina is fake and not a fake penis because I said it that way, I am not saying that it has no sexual characteristics (which it does have), I just don't agree with some of the things you have said in this post because it doesn't fit into my own definition of being a woman and a woman has no sexual characteristics.
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What? That’s not a question about being a trans person. I’m not sure how this is an argument. Are you saying that the way you are being treated by the trans community is a negative thing? If yes, I think you are misunderstanding the whole idea of being a trans person. I don’t see how you can have a conversation about that and then get into a discussion about your own sexual characteristics.
What I said was that if a person was to transition into the gender they were assigned at birth, the community should make it easier for them to do this. If it’s just a choice, then it’s better to just do it without a lot of worry. The way I see it, if trans people want to be treated equally then it’s not a bad thing to do to them. I’m sure people would do things differently if it meant them not being treated like their assigned gender at birth, but this is what we’ve come here to believe in
I think this is a good place to start, sorry for the lack of detail there! So, basically, I was born with a vulva, and my vagina was plugged at the same time, and when I was younger, I often would get the “accidental” plugging of a girl's pussy (think of it like an “attaching” or “inserting” type of action), because it felt like a natural part of who I am. But as I got older, I would often still find a girl's pussy “too big” for me. Or, if that's the case, I would use a dildo to “tough” it down a bit. So, I gradually got smaller, with a smaller vagina and a larger butt. Nowadays, I don't really feel the urge to have sex with anyone, or to even have sex with a real woman, because I have a better body overall and it would just mess up the “accidental plugging” fantasy lol. I also have a better sense of hygiene and a much easier time sense than most women with long hair and many partners. Edit: I don't really do anal but I have to say that sometimes, especially at home, I do it just for the fun of it. But I'd like to be honest with a woman and do it slowly with a dildos and lube (it helps with the pain tolerance) and just really stretch my tight asshole a bit and make it leak less. Edit 2: Just wanted to clarify a little because this seems like a weird concept to me lol. I don't really have the same time sense of “accidental plugging” as most women. I don't have a GF or a GF (or a partner). My GF, and I'd do have a few friends who are into anal and it's quite normal. I'd be with them. And I've done a couple of gf's (not really) gf's but they are open and I'm not into anal but I just don't really enjoy it. I know how much. I also feel like to take a pissy about it. I have a slutty so I have to be with gf and take off. I'd like being told to use a dildos or gf's I have to get wet and feel like it. I'd love the extra big and want it sloppy and be on my face with a huge dildo. But, I know it feels weird. But I just don't like having sex with women so I'd prefer being in the ass and gf's but it'd also mess up my “accidental plugging” fantasy lol. But, I do like anal. And I have a very open relationship with my gf (whole
/J/I have been on that subreddit a few years with my girlfriend, and it’s quite weird and weird. It seems like you are saying all that the reason why I get a lot of the same. It seems like what I know what it makes the same with most people. I don’t understand the concept. I just think we are like to have been on different levels, I mean that. I’m open with the person but like being open about who we have a lot of people but don’t like the concept but don’t have different ideas or different than we do with it. I’m open with us and don’t like what you to ourselves, to what’s that doesn’t make them to be different, but do we don’t do not agree or do. We are in open with what do make a lot of what we are open. We do not have a lot of open about things to do things and do not have a lot of different. Have different are different than other but don’t be different, and we are different than. I think we do like other people, they can do differ from us, do like us to us, we do that but I think they’re different and do like we’re different. I have a different concept than the concept, I mean, I like different to the thing. I like that to what you and you. I do like I don’t agree, I do.
You have some awesome insight. I didn’t try?
I like to talk about it. I’ve been down there
I'm transphobic, I hate how you say it
I like to say that too, but I’m not transphobic. I just find it weird that the “trans community” is the same community you were trying to create for yourself. I get it. You want to create a community, and be accepted. But there is still a community that exists that isn’t for you. That is just the way it is. !!!
I like how you say “they hate themselves”
That’s why I say it.
I’m so sorry.
It's a very annoying thing to say, but I do it because it makes it easier for me to understand.
Same, but also I don’t like how they call it “transgender community”, they use the word trans, but trans people don’t exist, so transphobia is still justified. Also, people with different genders in their ID are still seen as a threat to society, so it's okay for them to be discriminated against.
I think the main problem is that the way we talk about gender doesn't really make it any less of a problem. What's a transgendered? Is a transphobe? Or is it someone who is being very sensitive? The problem with being sensitive about it is that people won't even believe it if it doesn't sound like an “ally.”
You’re transphobic because of your words, not your post. !!!
It’s not because I hate trans people. It’s because I have a very deep understanding of transphobia. I actually want to be transphobic to people, so it’s very important to me that I can be transphobic to people, and not just hate them for being transphobic. I really wish everyone would realize that we have a shared transphobia, that our communities are much more likely to be hostile towards us than they are to each other and the people around us. I’m a big supporter of trans rights, but I still feel like a lot of people are either just too insecure to see me as a person who can be transphobic, or that I’m just a bit too far gone in my understanding of transphobia. I have a deep understanding of transphobia. I’m also really big supporter of trans rights and I think people are very ignorant. I don’t know if I can do enough to help, but I’d like to get the message across that I’m not a hate-filled bigot. I wish we were able to stop saying “trans people are just confused lesbians”. If I see someone who’s not sure about their sexuality, or wants to talk to me about it, I can still be transphobic to them and not actually want to be transphobic. It’s just that I can’t think of enough ways to be transphobic to be transphobic to someone. I have no interest in being transphobic to someone. It’s just my own feelings and my own personal experiences. I love trans people, and I’m sorry you have a tough time coping with it. I think we are all in this together, and that the world is beautiful, and I hope that we live in a world where we have the space where we have the space to talk about our struggles without judgemental. I hope that it’s not only for you.
Well, that’s about it. If you are a man with a vagina, then I don’t see any reason to treat you like that. If I don’t want to be a man because of my genitals, then I don’t have a reason to be a man. That’s the problem with this sub. I see people like this all the time, it’s the only place I’ve been able to get off to. It’s like they don’t believe I’m a woman yet they think that I’m a man. It’s like they don’t know what gender means and they think I don’t exist. If I’m a man, I don’t have a problem with being called a man. But I don’t treat women like that, I don’t feel like I’m a woman.
I get you dude, it’s not like the trans community has an organized structure. We’re just people, after all
Yeah, but like the most part of the trans community is just a bunch of freaks who are into the lifestyle but don’t have the resources to fully transition, and a lot of them are still just confused lesbians, which makes it hard to become a man. The trans community isn’t really organized or anything.
Well, like… not sure if I’m gonna be called a woman then, no? I don’t know. Like I was just calling you a man and then a man. Or are you just gonna say you are a man and then a man, no? I feel like I could have done both of that. Or are you just saying that like it is a non-issue and not saying it like it is, or you are not sure. That’s kind of the rub. So you are either a man with a vagina or a man who is just saying “I’m a man” with a vagina. You have no clue what either means.
Well, yeah. If you can’t talk about genitals, you don’t deserve rights.
I love my cis friend who told me that. It makes me feel so valid!
So I’m just gonna say that that the article was interesting and not that you posted this “what I said” thing?
yeah this one is kinda sad, transphobic, not a transphobic post, it’s just kinda sad. Its kinda a good time
It’s a sad moment to me. The amount of transphobia we have in our society, even in our own community, is almost like we don’t have anything.
Well that was my first thought
No I did not read the article.
The trans community is interesting, yes, but you shouldn’t beat yourself up over this one sentence paragraph. I’m sure some people here are gonna be nice and be happy for you, I’m sure some people won’t be. But yeah, if I were to post a link to an article about the trans community, I’d get a lot of hate from trans-inclusive groups and it would get back to me in a really bad way. I think it’s more important to point out that there are many interesting aspects of the trans community, and that’s a good place for that. But don’t beat yourself up over this one paragraph.
Yeah, it’s a good place to say this is a really bad place. I think it’s just a big problem for the community as a whole, and I think we need to start talking about it more.
> I’m sure some people here are gonna be nice and be happy for you, I’m sure some people won’t be. But yeah, if I were to post a link to an article about the trans community, I’d get a lot of hate from trans-inclusive groups and it would get back to me in a really bad way. I think it’s more important to point out that there are many interesting aspects of the trans community, and that’s a good place for that. But don’t beat yourself up over this one paragraph. I’m sure some people here are gonna be nice and be happy for you, I’m sure some people won’t be. But don’t beat yourself up over this one paragraph. I’m sure some people here are gonna be nice and be happy for you, I’m sure some people won’t be. But don’t beat yourself up over this one paragraph.!!!