Some info: 22M, looking to move out. It started last weekend when we were discussing politics, she got mad and loudly called me an idiot. Outside, public street btw. A bit before this she also screamed at me in a minimarket for me not wanting to put my backpack in their storage boxes. Lol.

I get she was tired but she didn’t even apologize until later home when I told her about it.

Then next night I had some dreams about all the stupid shit I had to through as a kid of hers. I woke up with a disgusted taste about her and I didn’t want to talk with her anymore.

It’s been a 6 days, where I continually ignored her. She keeps coming at my door asking to “repair things”. You can’t repair 22 years of negligence. I told her that I need space and time and I will talk to her after. She keeps going against my boundaries and asks what’s wrong. Since I’ve already told her, now I’m blasting music on my headphones because it seems she can’t understand how to accord private space. She has the mentality that “I’m your mother hence I can do anything”

Now she talks nice but I know it’s just a matter of time. It’s a manipulation tactic to get me back. She doesn’t actually feel sorry.

Thanks for reading.

  • Leon@pawb.socialEnglish
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    25 days ago

    I lived with my mother until late 2019, which at the time I’d have been around 25. She’d brought me up on the notion that I was always to care for her when she got old, and she was already decently old when she had me. Cut ties, and ended up homeless for a few weeks, but I managed to scramble to get something together decently fast.

    With COVID starting she reached out and I reciprocated. It didn’t take long for her to fall into old habits. It began with snide comments and attempts at manipulation, and progressed into outright demands. For a few years I lived with the hope that perhaps she’d change, come around and listen, see why I was hurting. She never did, and I finally severed all ties forever in mid 2023.

    The entire time she’d been ranting to people about how I was immature and misbehaving. Don’t think she’ll ever properly see me as a functional adult with a mind of my own.

    The best thing I did was just to move on and live my life. Focus on myself and not have any expectations from her. I’ve gone from feeling like an empty shell to feeling like a person. Picked up old hobbies again, and started new ones. Hell, I’ve had two boyfriends, which feels like a lot given that she made me believe that no one but her could ever love me.

    You obviously already know, but it doesn’t hurt to hear it; your life is your own to do with as you please. Don’t let others limit you or drag you down.