• four@lemmy.zipEnglish
    37·
    2 天前

    During my teenage years birthday has become associated with “look how other people have cool parties with friends and you’re alone”, so not caring about birthdays was necessary for survival. But now, in my 20s, after I found someone I love (and they love me!) I am getting into celebrating birthdays again! Sorry if that was 2meirl42meirl4meirl

  • Toneswirly@lemmy.world
    38·
    2 天前

    My family always tries to guilt me on my birthday in to doing shit and im like “its my birthday, give me the gift of leaving me the fuck alone”

  • Bonus@fedia.io
    151·
    2 天前

    @Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com

    I grew up in an abusive family that made me feel like shit every birthday and I hate that for myself. If you want to make me climb out of my skin, fuss over me on my birthday, bring me a cake at work. Watch me puke in the bathroom from the anxiety. Yeah, real mature.

  • Grass@sh.itjust.works
    6·
    1 天前

    everyone seems to say matured when it should just be mature. I hate hearing it live especially, it’s so jarring I get that arm hairs pulling away feeling

  • TrackinDaKraken@lemmy.worldEnglish
    14·
    2 天前

    Yeah! Let’s celebrate making another trip around the sun. /s

    Don’t get me wrong, I am happy I’m getting older–because the only alternative is death.

  • djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    11·
    2 天前

    yeah I don’t think I’m more matured, I simply think that life is a curse and have no interest in celebrating the day I was cursed.

  • ButteryMonkey@piefed.socialEnglish
    6·
    2 天前

    I got moved to a new school every year from 5-12th grade. I never had friends to even invite to my birthday. I tried a few times when I was younger and it was wildly depressing. I learned fast to keep to myself, talk to nobody, and expect nothing from “big days”.

    We’d do small family birthday stuff but even that was awful. My mother liked to get the shitty cheap knock-off version of whatever you asked for even if the original thing was already cheap… or in my case she’d buy me clothes (from goodwill) that were absolutely hideous, the sort of thing my sister would wear to be the center of attention but which I wouldn’t have touched… so I really never even had any gifts to look forward to…

    In my early 20s I figured I’d try again. Birthday 21 rolls around, the one everyone wants to celebrate with you… and… two friends and two family members came out of the dozens of people I invited. Nope, never doing that again.

    Now at best I’ll go sit somewhere that I drink for free with one other person at most. Just give me the free alcohol, don’t try to get me to be all chummy with the other birthday people. I’ll just leave.

  • Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world
    51·
    2 天前

    I usually just treat it as a birthday month, take a couple weeks vacation then, and spend it with people I like. I find it facilitates loved ones being able to filter in and out of the birthday situation as their schedules allow without putting much pressure on me or anyone else to have a good time. It feels like cheating, but I like that any good memories during that month get attributed to the celebration and any bad ones can get written off as “not birthday.” It might be fractured to the point of delusion, but I still like it.