So I’m going on a fifth date with a girl I met. We’ve been talking for about 1.5 months now. I asked her if she was free Thursday night but she said no but is free Saturday night. We plan to go to a group event that is valentine theme. This is my first time ever having a date too 🫣
Anyway my questions are:
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So she got me a lovely gift on our fourth date because she loves gifting. I know she loves flowers especially tulips because they make her days better. Now I know tulips are “more serious” but would it be a bad idea to get her some (especially since it’s Valentine’s Day and the group event she’ll also get to take the item we make home) I don’t want her to get the wrong message with the tulips
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Along with texting and dating for a bout a month we’ve also had phone calls….ik it’s the fifth date but with all this time frame a good time just to inquire about where we stand? Like I’m fine if she wants to take it slow but I want to show her I’m interested in something more — Not sure if it helps but during 4th date is when she got comfortable with hugging and me picking her up
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After dropping her off after hugging can I mention how much fun I had and would like to see her again and say something like are you free Wednesday night? Or wait a few hours
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you can plan plan plan all you want. when the day/night comes, you’ll end up forgetting all your micro plans, scripts, etc… and you’ll just be yourself.
do what makes you happy, do what you feel is right. don’t overthink, or try to force outcomes. let it all happen and just be true to yourself
It sounds to me that she likes you. Giving a gift and making a counter proposal for a meeting time both speak to that.
Surely she won’t mind the flowers, if she’s gotten around to tell you what type she likes. My only concern is logistical: where will the flowers be while you are at the event? Or will you pick her up and she can leave them at her place?
Perhaps you could combine 2 and 3? You could tell her at some point that you are excited to meet her again and were already thinking about wednesday, then ask how she feels about meeting so often and direct the conversation to what she is looking for from the relationship and over what timeframe. The reason I suggest this is that it might feel less like putting her on the spot on “where are we going with this” and making the question “would meeting already on Wednesday be too intense for you”.
It’s good to think about framing questions, but the most important thing is reading the situation and caring about how she feels. The latter you clearly do already.
You’ll do well.
And if you feel like it, we will appreciate hearing how it went.