Boyfriend of 2 years (best friend of 6) just told me he’s started seeing someone else. No discussion. Just ghosted me for a week and hit me with this news. Thought he was my soulmate, lmao. I feel like someone just ripped out my insides. Just turned 31 this year, this shit is not any easier than when I was a teenager.
How did you make it through that first night? The second? The third? Is it really just time? I feel like my body is too old to survive another heartbreak.
Talk to a friend about everything you’re feeling. Bitch about all his worst qualities and be extra petty about it. Cry about all his good qualities that you’ll miss. Watch a new show or movie or an old comforting favorite (anything that doesn’t remind you of him). Have a long Lemmy scrolling session to try to take your mind off it for a while. Cry some more. Tell yourself how life is so unfair, and sometimes it sucks. Scream out loud, and get some stuff off your chest that you’d never say to his face. Cry again. Write down everything you’re feeling, then keep it, or burn it (whatever feels right in the moment). Hydrate after all the crying. Don’t forget to eat, and eat whatever you feel like. Try to get some sleep.
Potentially repeat some of those things the next day, and the next, but hopefully fewer and fewer as the days go by, and the feelings become less pointed.