By the time I was a teenager my dad wouldn’t lay a finger on me. I was taller than him and twice as strong. Too bad he had beaten me enough up to that time that I was terrified of him and didn’t notice. My dad would just destroy my headphones when I wasn’t around and belittle me for not taking care of them. Anything I ended up with he wanted, he stole. Same goes for my mother. She would regularly throw my books in the trash. Sure sign was when she would have me take the trash to the dumpster at a nearby store. I figured this out and started removing my stuff and stashing it places. Narc parents are evil and should be tested for. No child should have to endure that level of constant abuse.
Lol same! One day I snapped when I was helping him fix some lights when he started yelling at me for doing something wrong instead of properly explaining to me how to do it (every single time he does this)
And I stabbed him on the face with a screwdriver lol
He had to get some stitches and I have never felt scared of him since.
My problem was that my mother was worse than him. To give you a few examples through my life.
I won a contest and ended up with a fairly expensive nick nack. It disappeared a year or so after hanging out on a shelf in my room. I spotted it a few years later at one of her friends house. I said hey thats mine but the lady got offended and said it certainly is not. Next time I was there it was gone.
When I got married my ex’s grandmother let her use her grapes punch bowl. My mother stole it and we never got it back. I didn’t end up with any of my child hood things. Not my band jacket or any other award I ever received. I’m sure my sister will chunk it all in the trash. She is a chip off the old rotted block.
Dang, I didn’t regularly get the shit beat out of me, but basically everything just up to that, screaming, random punishments that made no sense, shit getting thrown around, doors opened and slammed, etc.
Absolutely no concept of being allowed to have an actually private and safe space, untill I went off to uni.
They were also probably similarly upset that they can no longer abuse me after they essentially tried to ruin my life / indirectly kill me for the … 3rd, 4th time? And I then ghosted them to the point that I’m quite sure they think I am dead.
They might be in for a surprise when I report my dad to the IRS for illegally listing me as a dependant on his taxes for the last few years though.
… I’ve got a goddamned degree in Econ and another in Poli Sci, this idiot is Q Anon MAGA cultist who builds ghosts guns in his garage, and bought a house at the literal peak of the housing market, a few years back.
But according to them, I’m the crazy idiot.
Ok then. Sure.
Anyway, I guess +1 for the CPTSD by way of ‘entire family is mentally unstable narcissists’ club.
Oh I made the choice that I will not be having kids, ever, before I got out of highschool.
Not primarily out of spite.
Primarily because I recognize that my upbringing was fucked up enough that it fucked me up, no matter how much therapy I’ve done. There are echoes and tendencies of them… and scars from them…
And also, apparently my mother (and her brother) have a literally novel form of neuropathy… like, they discovered the unique genetic sequence/mutation in them.
So just no, I’m ending this genetic and epigenetic line with myself.
Maybe, maybe if I’m ever not broke and crippled and near destitute, I would consider adoption, but unless my fortunes dramatically improve, not in the cards.
Like the other person who commented I hope you break the cycle as well. I for the most part did. I was very angry and sometimes violent when I was a young adult but I finally got some treatment and things are much better now.
For those who don’t understand, this meme is a reference to me.
My daddy would beat the shit out of me if he asked me something and I didn’t reply because I had headphones on and didn’t hear him.
So I would wear it like that.
By the time I was a teenager my dad wouldn’t lay a finger on me. I was taller than him and twice as strong. Too bad he had beaten me enough up to that time that I was terrified of him and didn’t notice. My dad would just destroy my headphones when I wasn’t around and belittle me for not taking care of them. Anything I ended up with he wanted, he stole. Same goes for my mother. She would regularly throw my books in the trash. Sure sign was when she would have me take the trash to the dumpster at a nearby store. I figured this out and started removing my stuff and stashing it places. Narc parents are evil and should be tested for. No child should have to endure that level of constant abuse.
Lol same! One day I snapped when I was helping him fix some lights when he started yelling at me for doing something wrong instead of properly explaining to me how to do it (every single time he does this)
And I stabbed him on the face with a screwdriver lol
He had to get some stitches and I have never felt scared of him since.
Edit: Oh and my mother and I left him after this.
My problem was that my mother was worse than him. To give you a few examples through my life.
I won a contest and ended up with a fairly expensive nick nack. It disappeared a year or so after hanging out on a shelf in my room. I spotted it a few years later at one of her friends house. I said hey thats mine but the lady got offended and said it certainly is not. Next time I was there it was gone.
When I got married my ex’s grandmother let her use her grapes punch bowl. My mother stole it and we never got it back. I didn’t end up with any of my child hood things. Not my band jacket or any other award I ever received. I’m sure my sister will chunk it all in the trash. She is a chip off the old rotted block.
Wow man, I was lucky enough to have my mom on my side, you should cut off any ties you have with them.
I did years ago and I didn’t go to the funerals.
Freak, the cup goes BEHIND the ear!!
Dang, I didn’t regularly get the shit beat out of me, but basically everything just up to that, screaming, random punishments that made no sense, shit getting thrown around, doors opened and slammed, etc.
Absolutely no concept of being allowed to have an actually private and safe space, untill I went off to uni.
My entire family was like this.
I also learned to wear a headset like this.
I bet they were upset that they couldn’t do that to you anymore.
They were.
They were also probably similarly upset that they can no longer abuse me after they essentially tried to ruin my life / indirectly kill me for the … 3rd, 4th time? And I then ghosted them to the point that I’m quite sure they think I am dead.
They might be in for a surprise when I report my dad to the IRS for illegally listing me as a dependant on his taxes for the last few years though.
… I’ve got a goddamned degree in Econ and another in Poli Sci, this idiot is Q Anon MAGA cultist who builds ghosts guns in his garage, and bought a house at the literal peak of the housing market, a few years back.
But according to them, I’m the crazy idiot.
Ok then. Sure.
Anyway, I guess +1 for the CPTSD by way of ‘entire family is mentally unstable narcissists’ club.
I hope you’ll break the cycle with your kids!
Oh I made the choice that I will not be having kids, ever, before I got out of highschool.
Not primarily out of spite.
Primarily because I recognize that my upbringing was fucked up enough that it fucked me up, no matter how much therapy I’ve done. There are echoes and tendencies of them… and scars from them…
And also, apparently my mother (and her brother) have a literally novel form of neuropathy… like, they discovered the unique genetic sequence/mutation in them.
So just no, I’m ending this genetic and epigenetic line with myself.
Maybe, maybe if I’m ever not broke and crippled and near destitute, I would consider adoption, but unless my fortunes dramatically improve, not in the cards.
Same, but because of clinical depression. Won’t pass that “gift”.
Well, if nobody’s told you they care about you today, I do.
Hope things are goin at least ok, that something fun or neat happened to ya in the last couple of days.
Like the other person who commented I hope you break the cycle as well. I for the most part did. I was very angry and sometimes violent when I was a young adult but I finally got some treatment and things are much better now.
Still workin on the Zen thing, yeah.
I’m a lot better than I was, but… oh if you manage to actually piss me off, I will explode.
Usually I can control it, but… not every time.
So… not there yet.
Same
With jumper cables?
Oh shittymorph