• HerrBeter@lemmy.world
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            9 months ago

            Abuse also creates people who at the core lack a sense of self, so trying to fit into groups can be difficult and makes them prone to do things wrong. (my head just went into a translation error dead zone)

            It’s crazy how big of an impact a non-abusive upbringing can have. I’ve personally struggled with cognitive dissonance from my own, took me a low 15 years to accept it

            • GlitterInfection@lemmy.world
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              9 months ago

              Yeah. I had a physically and mentally abusive father as well, but he wasn’t much of a liar in this case. I’m 40, been on my own since 17, and still need regular therapy for all of it. So I empathize.