That ended with me finally explaining to him how the way he and my mother treated me as a child, with undiagnosed (and really not even conceptually understood at the time) ADHD caused me lasting trauma that persists to this day. I’m a 45 year old man, and I cried.
… and a firmly-rooted “I accomplished so much through anger and self-hate, so you can too” image. Don’t forget that.