When I was younger, I told my therapist that I kept accidentally saying insulting things and offending my friends without realizing it. She didn’t ask for any examples and I didn’t think to give any.
She told me that my friends should understand that being homeschooled and autistic, I’m going to miss some social norms, and if I explain what I meant and ask a nicer way to put it, they’ll be able to explain.
Yeah this just made my friends really mad because I wasn’t saying anything rude, they were just picking fights. Real “I like pancakes”, “so you hate waffles?!” type conversations. It took me an embarrassingly long time to figure out why it wasn’t working.
ETA I think my sister convincing me not to go to college was worse advice, but that’s not much of a story. Spoiler I didn’t go to college.
When I was younger, I told my therapist that I kept accidentally saying insulting things and offending my friends without realizing it. She didn’t ask for any examples and I didn’t think to give any.
She told me that my friends should understand that being homeschooled and autistic, I’m going to miss some social norms, and if I explain what I meant and ask a nicer way to put it, they’ll be able to explain.
Yeah this just made my friends really mad because I wasn’t saying anything rude, they were just picking fights. Real “I like pancakes”, “so you hate waffles?!” type conversations. It took me an embarrassingly long time to figure out why it wasn’t working.
ETA I think my sister convincing me not to go to college was worse advice, but that’s not much of a story. Spoiler I didn’t go to college.