The first distro I used was Ubuntu as part of a computer class at school, but it was preinstalled on a school computer. The first distro I installed on a personal computer was Arch because le reddit said it was le epic hackerman’s IMPOSSIBLE CHALLENGE TO INSTALL distro. It installed, and after that I didn’t use it because my favorite Windows apps couldn’t work.

I discovered Lemmy around 2019 or 2020 and loved the concept but was put off by the density of commies, so I didn’t create an account and participate but I would check the site around once a year to see if the community had taken off yet.

2020: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet? Nope, still commies and dead threads.
2021: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet? Nope, still commies and dead threads.
2022: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet? Nope, still commies and dead threads.
2023: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet?

YES!

And I am so glad to never have to see the depressing and miserable “culture” that was Lemmy from 2019 to mid-2023 again.

Federated networks are, by design, not able to be constrained by one set of rules and standards. The place you are looking for is Tildes, a centralized, invite-only, text-only website whose selling point is “high quality discussions” and very harsh moderation against anything that does not fit their standard of “high quality”.

That’s relieving to hear. I know the backstory of Kbin is that Ernest was originally a Lemmy contributor but he and Lemmy’s devs got into a disagreement about politics, so he went to start his own project instead. There was no communication about the block from Lemmy’s devs for a while so a lot of people, including me, theorized that it was related to the conflict.

Exactly, if an instance loves to censor others so much they should deal with the consequences of less interaction and visibility. lemmy.ml is also dropping off my feed because their devs have beef with Kbin’s dev and they blocked interactions from all Kbin instances.

Why don’t you start an account there and help them out, or start an account on an instance that is federated with both if you prefer the community there? I personally disagree with their moderation and don’t like the kind of users they approve of, so I’m happy seeing less of them around.

I was a kid when all of the big social media websites except TikTok took off so I never got to have it anywhere else. I wanted the sense of pride and accomplishment of being the first person on my instance to get my name as their username.

If you’re comparing stock Android against stock iOS, Apple has more privacy protections against tracking because of App Tracking Transparency.

I have two phones as daily drivers, one Android and one iPhone. Compared to Android, the iPhone is very restrictive and locked down. Adblockers don’t work and you’re forced to use whatever iOS interface it throws at you. Buttons and gestures move around with every update. There’s no way to view and manage internal files, no sideloading, lots of options that are just not accessible to normal users.

The positive side is that iPhones are very optimized and I can get similar performance to my Android phone despite the iPhone being older and having worse specs. The closed ecosystem also has its benefits, because it makes data very hard to get out, so I use the iPhone as a device to sandbox all the Meta crap that I’m forced to use.

Federated actions are never truly private, including votes. While it’s inevitable that some people will abuse the vote viewing function to harass people who downvoted them, public votes are useful to identify bot swarms manipulating discussions.

There should be a patch for it that hides the “recommended” feed in the homepage. I’m not certain because I never use Youtube with an account or the official website/app, so I don’t get targeted recommendations.

Hate speech laws in real life are also very ambiguous and rarely stand alone in court without another more easily proven charge.

Upvote to you too anyway, although I’m still guilty of using downvote as a disagree button.

That’s why I suggested Revanced with “disable recommendations” patches. It’s still Youtube and there is no new platform to learn.

I didn’t bother to check who it is because I’m not petty enough, but there’s a guy on my instance who downvotes everything. I think some people are using downvotes to “hide read posts” as voting counts as reading a post.

“Discussions became binary”. And yet you subscribe to the binary of “hateful vs. non-hateful opinion” as if it’s clearly identifiable.

I watch a ton of videos there, literally hours every single day and basically all my recommendations are about stuff I’m interested in.

The algorithm’s goal is to get you addicted to Youtube. It has already succeeded. For the rest of us who watch one video a day, if at all, it employs more heavy-handed strategies.

I think it’s sad how so many of the comments are sharing strategies about how to game the Youtube algorithm, instead of suggesting ways to avoid interacting with the algorithm at all, and learning to curate content on your own.

The algorithm doesn’t actually care that it’s promoting right-wing or crazy conspiracy content, it promotes whatever that keeps people’s eyeballs on Youtube. The fact is that this will always be the most enraging content. Using “not interested” and “block this channel” buttons doesn’t make the algorithm stop trying to advertise this content, you’re teaching it to improve its strategy to manipulate you!

The long-term strategy is to get people away from engagement algorithms. Introduce OP’s mother to a patched Youtube client that blocks ads and algorithmic feeds (Revanced has this). “Youtube with no ads!” is an easy way to convince non-technical people. Help her subscribe to safe channels and monitor what she watches.

Using Piped/Invidious/NewPipe/insert your preferred alternative frontend or patched client here (Youtube legal threats are empty, these are still operational) helps even more to show you only the content you have opted in to.

Lemmy: Oldest federated link aggregator, better documentation compared to Kbin, easy to self-deploy, less resource consumption, provides the most similar experience to Reddit

Kbin: Poorer documentation, no API access yet, harder to self-deploy, terminology and UI differences from Reddit can turn people off (I really don’t like “magazine” for a community)

Tildes: Centralized, invite-only and elitist. Not comparable to Lemmy and Kbin

Why do you have to use NGINX? Caddy does the proxying to the Lemmy containers for you. That docker-compose.yml file is my entire deployment, there is no hidden NGINX container or config file that needs to be added. Just remove your broken Lemmy deployment with docker compose down and delete the containers, then docker compose up my docker-compose.yml (after you edit the postgres variables) with config.hjson in the same folder.