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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • It happens when your girlfriend is extremely unstable by default, even more so after a fight, comes to your parents house drunk in the middle of the night and essentially shames you for trying to reject her advances while simultaneously being physical about it by forcing you down and assuming you’re playing some mind game while you try your best to avoid waking your parents in the next room and making a scene cause she’s being loud and borderline belligerent. The sheer embarassment is enough for personal boundaries to get absolutely stomped on in that situation.

    Life is living among infinite shades of grey. Every situation has nuance that you might not have thought of.







  • That’s exactly what I was trying to acknowledge with my comment above. I was just pointing out how common it actually is to come across folks that think that way and that they think that way due to systemic issues involving deadbeat dads and perpetuation of antiquated gender roles among other things.

    I think the person asking a question like that shouldn’t necessarily be treated with disdain as absent or uninvolved fathers is a rather large problem. Some men still lean into the gender roles without even thinking about it. Its still so normalized that its ultimately mother’s responsibility to handle children and any additional involvement from the father is seen as charitable, it seems. Its a disappointing dynamic.



  • Yeah, that’s exactly what’s happening. People seem to be misconstruing my comment as endorsement of gender stereotypes? I don’t know.

    The assumption that the father is just giving mom a break is part of a systemic issue, that by and large women are still expected to bear the bulk of the burden of childcare. Older generations are much more likely to ask that assumptive question as they still see it as the norm. Hell, some families in my own personal circle fit that stereotype like a glove, to the detriment of the mother’s mental health.



  • Honestly with how oblivious most men are to the amount of work the average mother does, this is not a weird or stupid question. Insensitive, sure. Traditional gender roles still spill over into conversation, especially with older folks. The absolute least a father can do is aim to carry an equal share of the load of having children. The bitter reality is that this does not happen nearly as much as it should, hence comments like these.

    Moms are underrated as fuck.


  • We’ll agree to disagree I suppose. The alternatives don’t necessarily have to be FOSS either. A perfect example of a viable alternative to a predatory “industry standard” exists in the audio production world; REAPER.

    When I was in College, Pro Tools was the required software. Pro Tools at the time was a walled garden ecosystem, trapping anyone who sunk their hard earned cash into an environment rife with anti-consumer practices, hardware brand restrictions and invasive DRM.

    It cost me over $600 CAD at the time for a bundle containing a feature-limited copy of Pro Tools and a Digidesign MBox.

    Meanwhile, REAPER’s noncommercial license was $60. That $60 got you a full featured copy of the DAW with support for the next two full version upgrades (which turned out to be nearly a decade of updates). You could also use any hardware interfaces you desired without restriction.

    REAPER also has a free trial that is full-featured. No restrictions at all, even the trial length is unlimited. Why? Because they respect the consumer and trust that if you find value in the software you’ll support their work by paying for a copy. That purchase is one of the best I’ve ever made.

    In my experience, REAPER was equally as capable as Pro Tools or any other DAW on the market at the time. As of now I’d wager it’s the superior product.

    A world where consumers are respected currently exists, its just not in the hands of the corporate world. The best way to make a better future for everyone in the software world is to not put up with anti-consumer practices and engage with companies and developers that respect our time and hard earned cash instead of treating us like cattle.




  • Dang I’m super stoked that you like it! Thanks for giving it a shot. :)

    I’m not sure about another run of physical media at the moment. I suppose it would all hinge on whether or not I can finalize another EP or album for release.

    I’ve got four tracks mostly complete save for lyrics and vocals which is turning out to be the hardest part. The first album’s themes have glimmers of hope and most of the new material shares a similar atmosphere to the first release since a lot was written shortly after the first album, but the world has changed a lot since 2015 and my current state of mind is making it hard to write fitting lyrics. I guess you could say the misanthropy is creeping in.

    I actually just found a sealed copy of the album in storage. If you’d like it, send me a DM (that’s a thing on Lemmy, right?) and I’ll get it shipped to you if you’re willing to cover shipping.