don’t feel comfortable with you using it to speak to or about us

This actually is relevant, but wasn’t part of your initial statement. If you don’t like people using the term to refer to you then people should absolutely make an effort to not use that term when referencing you.

Saying there’s some mental gymnastics on my part is a bit of stretch, it’s how the word is defined in the dictionary. All I needed was to read. There’s no disrespect here, if you don’t like it then using the term to refer to you would be disrespectful, but I haven’t done so.

I don’t see the issue with using the term “guys” in the plural when referring to a group regardless of sex. That would align with the definition of the word. I’m pretty sure that’s how they meant it.

As long as both remain free and open source I’ll allow it.

Pornhub is an example of exactly this. They’ve blocked whole stares like Arkansas and Utah over these kinds of laws. I highly doubt pornhub has a physical presence in Arkansas of all places.

Naa cast-iron pan user. Throw that shit in a fire, melt away the bad and star it over.

Also kidding, but maybe.

“I promise” followed by anything. That thing will 100% not happen.

Honestly, that’s not bad for a start. That Xeon should be fine for most things. I run an amd 4650g pro and never get close to using it all.

Side Note: The people over at !selfhosted@lemmy.world have been immensely helpful for me in my brief journey so far.

What will you be hosting on? I started with a raspberry pi. It was important to me to host on something outside my main machine. I chose the pi because it would run linux, use very little electricity, and would remain out of the way.

Initially it was for pi-hole. Which is a network wide DNS filter used to block ads (with some exceptions like YT). That got me more interested in my own privacy. So, I added a searx instance to my pi. It’s an aggregate search engine that searches a bunch of search engines and won’t track me. Or at least I’m tracking myself.

I’ve never run a minecraft server on a pi but I have a friend who has. It was fine for up to about 4 people.

From there I actually built a rig specifically for hosting. It’s a little more stout than the pi. On it I run Proxmox (which I use to create linux containers for the other things I host). I do run a file share on it. It’s nice because it’s easy to run weekly backups so I don’t lose things. I also run a vpn, qbittorrent (for linux isos), jackett (indexes torrents), sonarr (used to… find movies I’m missing), jellyfin (to watch said movies anywhere in the house) and finally I do host a valheim server there for my friend’s and I.

Honestly I would at least start with a dedicated machine for it, maybe an old laptop, a pi, just anything cheap that if you screw up you can wipe and start over. From there: pi hole, seaex, retro game box maybe? There’s really a lot of things you can host. Find a need you have a Google a linux solution for it. There’s almost always one.

Recently I’ve taken to self hosting. It started with me just wanting a raspberry pi for pi-hole and has developed into a full hobby. Because so many of these services are FOSS and can run on a toaster it’s helped me immensely with avoiding commercial fatigue. I also find that the communities for the hobby are insightful and, because the solutions are free, they aren’t selling you on a product. They’re just passionate about the service, distro, or setup that they use.

I’ve also learned a ton of applicable skills for adult life, so happy side-effects.

Halocene, she does a bunch of covers of old rock songs from around the early 2000s. It’s like fresh nostalgia straight into my ears. Her original stuff is also pretty good :)

This is it for me. In particular as my hobbies shifted to self hosting, linux, and my own privacy, I find that lemmy is an incredible source of info and insight. But I’m not really here to meet or follow individuals as much as I am things that interest me.

It can be. I’m actually headed there in 4 days. Tickets this time around were definitely higher than usual but I managed to get them for $940 ish. Not ideal since the whole family is going and my bank account is hurting. Also not ideal was having to choose a 3am flight with a trash layover in dfw… but fingers crossed cheap shopping while were there makes up for it.

Speaking of plane tickets. As a man who flies to Korea to visit family every other year or so.

1. Always brows tickets in incognito. Airlines may change rates based on whether you’re a return visitor to their site and not having cookies can help.

2. Start with Google flights. This will give you an idea of when (what days and times) tickets are cheapest. Though generally Tuesday or Thursday are the answer.

3. Once you have your time frame use kayak or some other ticket agregator. This will let you find the airline and flight that you want.

4. Take that flight number and time and go directly to the airlines website. Aggregate sites like kayak rates are generally slightly higher that the airline because they gotta make dollars somehow.

5. Though not always I’ve found that some foreign Airlines charge native fliers less. E.g. if you’re flying Korea air change .Com in your web address to .kr. This makes the site in Korean but Google translate page can help here

It’s a bit of a process but I generally pay less than 1,000 round trip for flight to Korea and I live in a state with no international airport so I always have layovers.

Speaking of layovers. Use them. See a cheap ticket but it has a 24 hour layover in Paris? Fuck it, that’s a day in Paris :). Just be aware that you need roughly 3 hours in customs depending on your destination. So a 5 hour layover is gonna be a boring 5 hours. Long enough to wait, not long enough to do anything.

Bonus tip!! If you have good credit. Look for a credit card that offers a huge bonus or mile’s up front then immediately cash those in for a cheaper flight. Side note though on the ones that give you 5% cash back or whatever. You always have to book through them and it’s almost always, in my experience, like 5% more expensive. Fuck you Chase.

Do something active that allows for conversation. Things like movies are trash for a first date. You can’t talk, there’s no way to get to know the other person.

Something like a park, or a light hike is ideal. You get to experience something together in a conversational atmosphere. Where I grew up there’s a nice park by the river. It’s well lit, safe, and relatively public; while still being a beautiful place to visit. It helps everyone involved feel safe and gives ample time to chat and see the sights.

Honestly, it chose me in some ways. Started out working at a hotel. Worked my way up to Front Office Manager… Realized that job was ass with almost no mobility. Yes, you have a lot of options, but they’re all similar and hotel guests are basically children.

Friend of mine suggested I do a remote Tech Support job where he worked. Took a small paycut for better hours and work from home. Been promoted 4 times since, same company. I now do Business Analytics. Still problem solving but now for dollars instead of tech. It has its days, but I work from home, get good benefits and the pay is above average, soooo pretty good overall.