I’m beautiful and tough like a diamond…or beef jerky in a ball gown.

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Cake day: July 15th, 2025

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  • IMO, peak internet experience was when you had to make an effort to log on. i.e. dialing-up and tying up the phone line. Yeah, the speeds sucked and sometimes you got the dreaded “all circuits are busy now” message during peak hours, but everything else about the experience was better.

    When you logged into AIM/ICQ/MSN/Yahoo, etc, you did so with a purpose. You never worried about bothering someone by messaging them at a bad time because if it was a bad time to do so, they wouldn’t be online in the first place.

    “Back in my day” (lol), the internet wasn’t always on, it wasn’t demanding your attention, it wasn’t pestering you with constant notifications, it wasn’t in your face all the time, it wasn’t constantly recommending or suggesting things at you (not “to” you, at you) etc, etc. It was there when you needed it but didn’t butt into your life every second when you weren’t.

    You could disconnect.

    I honestly don’t know what we can really do about it. Personally, I turn off pretty much anything that can send a notification except SMS/MMS and check manually when I want to. Some people hate that and get annoyed that I rarely respond instantly to IMs and such, but I hate being constantly “on” as well as the expectation to be.



  • Eh, yes and no.

    A lot of friendships do start out based on proximity, convenience, etc but can grow into something deeper and lasting. Like, many of my friends in school growing up all had last names near mine in the alphabet. Two of those I still hang out with decades later.

    When you leave college and go into the real world on your own, you find out which ones were built on convenience and which were lasting. I couldn’t tell you how many “friends” I had in college, but since graduating, I probably only keep in touch with about 10 of them regularly.

    Reminds me of the saying “Relatives are who you were born into, family is who you choose”.