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Cake day: July 4th, 2023
  • JayleneSlide@lemmy.world
    toNews@lemmy.world•A ton of job postings might actually be fake
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    7 days ago

    It’s sofa king exhausting. Craft a cover letter and tweak the resume for each application. And still get crickets.

    For the entirety of my engineering career (25+ years), I’ve been accustomed to getting an offer for every position to which I applied. This time around, something is way off. I’m at 78 applications, despite being a perfect fit for almost all of those applications. There have been only two responses, and those were for interviews, still in progress. The fake listings makes a lot sense, but I can’t help but feel that the problem is way larger than this article indicates.

  • JayleneSlide@lemmy.world
    toAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What was your worst consensual sexual experience?
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    16 days ago

    I had a partner for eight years. We met when we were both 31. She was my first monogamous relationship theretofore because I decided to give monogamy a try. She was utterly, screamingly boring in bed. There was nothing else notably wrong with the relationship, except for her unwillingness to communicate on anything beyond household, workaday topics. No oral (give or receive), no anal, not into foreplay, and she would just lay there. But no conflicts either. There was the advantage of she was always willing and ready to go without any foreplay or lube. She got off and claimed she was absolutely sexually satisfied. Sex wasn’t even fun in the context of Free Use, which is a kink I enjoy. I tried to engage her in all kinds of Gottman Method relationship work, but she bluntly and explicitly refused.

    At one point early in our relationship, she moved and clamped her vagina in a way that was quite enjoyable. “Honey, that was great! Please do that more.” And for the rest of our relationship, any such complement was a sure-fire way to make sure it would never happen again. After eight years of nearly daily, invariably terrible sex, I stopped approaching her sex for three weeks. She never said a thing. On day 22, I broke up with her, and she was absolutely gobsmacked, claimed that I was throwing away eight years of great history. She hadn’t even noticed that there had been no sex for three weeks.

  • JayleneSlide@lemmy.world
    toShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•The best way to keep feeling young is to remove all of your mirrors.
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    2 months ago

    A lot of people in the comments are lamenting their physical pains. I feel ya, y’all.

    TL;DR: yoga, Pilates, McKenzie Method physical therapy.

    Some background first, then a low- to zero-price solutions. My partner and I are both 52 years old. She had Stage-IVb cancer two years ago, the treatment for which left her with ongoing issues. I abused the hell out of my body starting in my early teens:

    • dirt biking (crashes)
    • mountain biking (crashes)
    • road bicycling (been hit by cars seven times, MCL tears, cervical disc herniation)
    • software engineering (sedentary, ergonomically shit offices, postural issues, cervical radiculopathy, sciatica, RSIs)
    • open ocean sailor (yeah, all of it is just brutal)

    Despite all of that, we are both regularly clocking PBs. She’s a competitive rower, triathlete, and mountain biker, and I’m a long distance cyclist. AND we are 90 to 99% pain-free, depending if we did our maintenance work.

    Doing yoga, Pilates, and McKenzie Method physical therapy (MMPT) keeps you going at full tilt. You can start for free with yoga and Pilates, just find a zero-equipment YT channel that appeals to you. We’re partial to “Yoga with Adrienne” and “Move with Nicole.” Start slow and easy.

    For the MMPT, “Bob and Brad” on YT are MMPTs. Robin McKenzie’s books are worth owning, or just check them out from the library. Memorize the exercises, and don’t stop doing them just because the pain dropped below threshold(!!!). I…uh… might have direct experience there. :D

    Use or lose it, take care of the hardware and software, and all that. With a little care and maintenance, you can rock the hell out of your body for a very long time. I didn’t believe it until the first time I met a 70 year old downhill mountain biking champion. His age class starts at 55, so he was beating professional racers 15 years younger than he. He was the one who taught me about yoga, Pilates, and MMPT being the key.

    If any of this blather helps even one of you just a little, it was worth the insomnia, typing-on-phone hell. :D

  • JayleneSlide@lemmy.world
    toAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Would you be surprised at all if there was a re-emergence of slavery in the United States?
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    5 months ago

    We never got rid of slavery in the US. We merely shifted cost of ownership. Quite successfully. The laws have been advanced and tweaked to make everyone a potential criminal, especially if a minority. Prison labor is absolutely legal. The prison system is mostly privatized and for-profit. Healthcare is tied to employment, with dental care (a foundational element of good health) often being an add-on to employer-provided health insurance.

    Stop the country, I want to get off.

    Refs:

    • Hacking of the American Mind by Robert Lustig
    • New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander
    • Evil Geniuses by Kurt Andersen
  • JayleneSlide@lemmy.world
    toAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What are some of your cheap eats hacks?
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    6 months ago

    Well, goddammit, I just had a huge reply typed out, and the website deleted it when the text window lost focus. Okay, super short version: /u/akrot raises a good point, and we would all do well to apply harm reduction and awareness of EDCs in our lives. They are ubiquitous and insidious. In my case, sous vide cooking is one of the very few explicit uses I concede to single-use plastic in my life. It is also one of the few points in my kitchen that food touches plastics.

    We must all pick our own battles, and everyday EDCs demand some awareness-raising.

  • JayleneSlide@lemmy.world
    toAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What are some of your cheap eats hacks?
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    6 months ago

    Sous vide cooking. It’s easy to buy a bulk quantity of food, vac-pack and cook it, then freeze it. This saves time and money both on purchase, initial prep, and mealtime prep.

    For example, we buy a whole, locally-grown, grass-fed chuck flap. We trim, bag, and cook the entire flap in one day. This provides my partner and me about six weeks of meals with high quality protein. Added bonus: the juice and gelatin in the bag after cooking makes excellent soup stock or cooking liquid for beans. Double added bonus: a sous vide chuck steak is just as good as the best ribeye fillet.

    Also learn to use an entire chicken. For example, spatchcock and roast the chicken for dinner. Break down the carcass to get every scrap of meat. Make chicken salad the next day. Roast the bones, make a mirepoix, and make chicken stock. Use that to make chicken and dumplings or chicken soup. The two of us eat for a week from one chicken.

    Learn about food preservation and safety: reusable containers, dangerous food conditions, fermentation, canning, making stocks… A huge part of saving money on food is not wasting any of it. Being able to buy in-season food when it’s cheaper and more nutritive is a big deal.

    And on that note: avoid cheap, low-nutrition food. Sure, that industrial, NPK produce and ultra-processed box meal might be “affordable.” But those tend to be empty calories; you have to eat more of it to feel sated and get the nutrition you need. Locally grown, in-season foods tend to be better food values since you need to eat less of them to get the same micronutrients. See: “The Doritos Effect,” by Mark Schatzker.