I agree completely and I’m in the same boat. Hopefully “community migration” becomes possible where you can ship all your posts to a new instance if necessary.

Lemmy is the closest thing yet for sure.

The main pros: decentralized*, productive conversations, no karma, open source.

The main con is that “decentralized” is a good idea, but it only works if practiced. Most people have jumped onto lemmy.world instead of spreading out. Minor cons include a lack of decent video embedding, missing some niche communities, and small bugs.

Overall I’ve rediscovered a lot of the internet that I had simply stopped checking because reddit took over my digital life. I read HackerNews again, the NYT, and a lot more. It’s nice.

Sync should have this when it comes out! Hopefully a beta will be released soon

Connect does. Unfortunately it’s all based on polling (asking the server if there are any comments) every so often, instead of being notified immediately. Lemmy doesn’t support sending out notifications (yet?)