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Cake day: October 12th, 2023

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  • I’m not much of wine drinker myself, but I once did a chef menu with the wine pairing. Every two dishes, they’d bring out a new glass of wine. It was kind blowing how the would taste one way with the first dish and a completely different way with the second dish. I’m not sure I can tell the difference between a $12 bottle and $40 bottle, but in that one meal i understood two things: first, if you know what your doing, wine and food pairings can be magical and, second, I don’t know what I’m doing.



  • People need to get over the candidate BS

    In one sense this true. Policies are set by a small army of party elites and admins. Presidents aren’t just policy makers though. They are the face of a country. Their words are powerful and institutions react to them. They also project a sense of competency and vitality to the world.

    it’s the politicians who deliberately trample them and keep these people in a perpetual state of misery, and then use racism to distract them from their pains.

    I think this is a one sided analysis putting all the blame on the Republicans. It fails to wrestle with purple states that became red states like Florida and the inability for Democrats to make lasting in roads in purple states.

    I just can’t believe the Red party is still given any serious consideration.

    Personally, I turn to history when I want to understand something that confounds me. It would be better if I could actually talk to some people and really hear them. But I live a major metropolitan center in a blue state so my access is limited.





  • Talk to him straight without being cruel. Below is an example and not a script.

    “Hey, I really appreciate you and our friendship. G/f and I are happy to be your friend. We also happy together. Please be respectful of that. I really hope we can continue growing our friendship.”

    He’ll be embarrassed. You can choose the level of connection and space to hold after that. Immediate disconnection will feel awkward for him. But so will holding space. Only in holding space can he even begin to remember that being friends with you is a safe place.

    Its not easy to reach out to a friend with low self esteem. But its something they crave for.










  • I can’t think of worse debate performance. Nixon profusely sweating? Pretty bad, but at least he was coherent.

    Mondale not being able to counter Regan’s age deflecting quip? Damn. That’s so tough one when the crowds turned.

    The Gore eye roll? Well damn that sucks.

    But this was a debate long fugue state. At best, some Trump previous incoherent ramblings are close, but still not as bad.

    This was seriously bad. And everyone failing to see that and trying to minimize it is attempting and failing to gaslight everyone else.

    There maybe no replacement available, but at least call a spade a spade.


  • Uncle Iroh
    I know he’s a genocidal war criminal, but he lost his son and traveled a long path of tea and paisho eventually cherishing and mentoring his nephew.

    Uncle Ruckus
    He’s a simple man, tryin’ to make his way in the world. Life’s dealt him a tough hand, but he played it the best he could. He worked hard, respected the values he was raised with, and tries to bring a bit of order to this chaotic world. He ma be rough around the edges and may not make words so good, but he believes in tough love and speaking his mind.