There definitely is a critical mass needed for social media. Reddit hit critical mass around 2012 when digg imploded. When I joined reddit in like 2010, it felt very much like Lemmy currently does.
I think that’s a major problem with Lemmy, because it’s so disjointed it’s hard to hit the critical mass needed to keep conversations interesting and fresh.
I work in an area where it’s impossible to record their behavior, and since there were so many people doing it snitching wasn’t an option. They were smart enough to only “joke” when management was within earshot and resume actual harassment when they left.
I still work with that same group, funny enough they went back to being buddy-buddy once I got vaccinated and was able to drop the mask.
I have forgiven them in the sense that I don’t think about it when I interact with them, but now I know how selfish they are and how they’d happily push me into a wood chipper if it meant they could avoid having to wear a small piece of fabric on their face.
Honestly, therapy. I basically had the same reaction when my coworkers, who i thought were pretty alright, would cough in my general direction and say survival of the fittest because I was wearing a mask during peak covid. I had a lung condition that put me at high risk, and I told them that… And that lead them to be even more hostile to me, openly saying they hoped I’d get covid and die off quickly.
I struggled with the fact that people can turn on you so fast, and that people couldn’t do the minimum effort to prevent someone they know from dying. We used to be cool, pretty often we went out to eat and hung out outside of work hours, then in the span of a couple months they were practically verbally assaulting me every day. I talked to a therapist and it really helped. I barely remember what they told me since it was years ago now, but it got me through it and I rarely think about it now.
making everything feel snappier.
We use very different apps that could easily be websites.
Why did you get the sleep study? It kinda sounds like you did it for fun if you don’t know what you’re potentially expecting from the results.
I’m not opposed to the idea of exchanging gifts… But can they be at least useful stuff that’s not going to sit on a shelf until it’s thrown in the trash?
Also, Christmas day is the worst possible day to give someone a Christmas themed item that’s not immediately consumable.
Almost like the entire country was built over Indian burial grounds.
Let’s be real though, there’s no such thing as curses. This is a human situation problem.
First, you only read the headline of the article. If you’re going to read headlines and speculate the rest of the story, you’re going to create the most extreme version. Headlines are intentionally misleading and catchy to get you to click and share them. Read the actual story from multiple sources, and you’ll probably find that the full story is a lot less crazy.
But yes, there are some stories that are just as gruesome as their headline. There’s not much more to a story like “6 elementary school students dead after another school shooting” and these things happen here significantly more than elsewhere in the world. There’s lots of debate about why and no one can agree on an exact reason, but it’s definitely a situational issue. Meaning that if you took the exact same person who murdered children and gave them an entirely different life from birth, they likely will be an entirely different person. It’s not something that some people are just “born” to do, it’s something their situation points them to.
My personal opinion on the solution to the issue is to have ten to a hundred times more guidance counselors at school, with mandatory, regular confidential counseling/therapy for each student. (Of course with strong firearm regulations in the meantime.) But honestly I don’t think the problem is going anywhere any time soon. The absolute craziness shown by millions of people during 2020-2021 shows that the people who need help the most will fight that help every step of the way.
There’s a really good book that helped me put my own realizations into more concrete terms.
https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/25898044
And this book literally changed how I view behavior and how to permanently change behavior: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22544758-triggers
No one gonna mention anything about how that dude is lucky to be alive? Holy shit I thought this was going to be a different kind of video.
I think it’s important to consider why you think this. Try and explain what makes someone stupid.
I do tend to agree with the general statement that most people are pretty fucking stupid. If IQ were a meaningful number of intelligence, I’d wager that it’s heavily skewed left. Meaning that the common saying of “think of how stupid the average person and realize half of all people are below that” is even worse when you use the median.
For me, what makes someone stupid is lack of curiosity, lack of drive to learn, and lack of critical thinking. I think stupidity is a learned trait, and our modern society is doing its damnedest to make sure children learn it as soon as possible. Never question authority, you only need to memorize so you can pass the test, and you will be spoon fed the information.
Then soon as you get out of school, you have to get a job and occupy most of your time with work or sleep, you’ll likely get only two-three hours of time to yourself each day, meaning you’ll lack the time to break out of the cycle. And the system compounds at most jobs. Your manager is likely stupid, meaning they want you to never question authority, just do what they tell you, and ask them very little questions.
I also think the trillions of dollars that are spent on advertising strongly influences this. And being constantly bombarded with psychological manipulation encourages stupidity.
I also think stupidity is compounding in and of itself. The less you know, the more you can just make hasty assumptions, then use those assumptions as fact for your next set of assumptions.
It’s also contagious. Being around people who are less stupid than yourself makes you feel bad, so you aren’t around them much or encourage them to join you in being stupid.
There is a massive difference between not knowing something, and choosing to not know something. Just about every person in the world has access to the greatest source of information that has ever been created. There are free courses on just about every topic you could ever desire to learn, fingertips away.
There is also a massive difference between knowing something and rote memorization. Being able to follow the logical chain of facts is very important, so is being able to critically think about a topic. I think being “bored” is great at combatting stupidity in this way. Spending time with no stimulation is great for engaging your brain in actual thoughts. Consider dedicating time to just thinking: no audiobooks, music, podcasts, video games, movies, TV shows, social media, books etc. Just sit and be bored for a while. Meditation is a great entry into this.
I used Smart Audiobook Player to listen to an audiobook recently and it worked great.
Oh absolutely. I still go back for the occasional check-in with my favorite small communities. But I basically never browse /r/all or any of the top subreddits that used to keep me coming back multiple times per day.
To be fair, both sites are pretty much gaping shit holes at this point.
He might be, but I still get unpleasant vibes from how he writes.
Yeah, I’d rather not if he talks like he writes. Again, I am fully on board with his message, but he writes like someone who doesn’t know how to have a conversation with another person.
This writer seems like a proper neck beard. I 100% agree with most of what they say, but this feels like it’s straight out of 4chann
Edit: I read a few other articles of his and watch a few of his videos/interviews. This article is an extreme side of him apparently. I still think he is extremely socially awkward, he can’t hold eye contact for longer than a millisecond and struggles to answer questions in less than twenty words.
I do fully agree with almost everything I’ve heard him say. I just don’t like the way he says it.
I’ve literally never heard GUI said as “gee ewe eye” before.
You could just say UI, avoids the gooey phobia and sounds less weird than g u i.
I think those make sense as deviations. I’ve heard “my sequel” but you’re absolutely right about postgresql.
The name is kinda irrelevant like hard vs soft g in gif. People know what you mean when you say either.
But in that same vein, the creator of the “graphics interchange format” says the pronunciation is soft g, but basically everyone says hard g… So “official” pronunciation is kinda irrelevant.
I don’t judge anyone who uses whichever term they want, but I’ve just noticed the general trend in my smallish interaction bubble.
The only people I know who actually call it ess queue ell are either too new to know the “sequel” pronunciation, or the type of person you generally smell before you see.
Stack the apples on top of each other and cut from the top down.