chosensilence
36 | nb transfem (he/they) | furry | anticapitalist | antifascist
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chosensilence@pawb.socialtoMental Health@lemmy.world•Please help me figure out how to actually **DO** therapy because I'm stupid (sorry, LONG)English
2·2 days agothat sounds like a decent plan for now. i would recommend perhaps in the future moving to a different therapist if the pattern continues. but i think this would be an okay way to handle things.
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politics @lemmy.world•Stephen Miller melts down as ‘leftist’ jury acquits man who towed ICE truck away
1·2 days agoi have much doubt we will resist or rebel to any meaningful degree. but i still remain hopeful.
chosensilence@pawb.socialtoMental Health@lemmy.world•Please help me figure out how to actually **DO** therapy because I'm stupid (sorry, LONG)English
4·2 days agothere is no right way to do therapy. you are open to it being useful and that would have been the only barrier. have you been direct with these therapists? this is your mental health. you are allowed to be an advocate for your needs. tell them you think this isn’t working for you and you’d prefer to talk skills building. you can tell a therapist when you’re not getting any use out of their current approach.
however, yes, unfortunately the mental health industry is underfunded and underpaid and therefore understaffed. there is a shortage because more and more people need therapy now than ever. you may have to cycle though a lot of bullshit before finding something truly worthwhile. it sucks and is unfair.
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World News@lemmy.world•Federal judge says U.S. must give due process to deported VenezuelansEnglish
19·2 days agooh okay now they’ll listen
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politics @lemmy.world•Stephen Miller melts down as ‘leftist’ jury acquits man who towed ICE truck away
6·2 days agoit’s because they accept that judges and lawyers are opposed to it for good reason therefore it must not be a legitimate function of a jury.
no, the judges and lawyers simply don’t want people to have power lol. an independent jury cannot be held liable for their decision. it would absolutely be antithetical to their intended function.
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politics @lemmy.world•60 Minutes Inside CECOT segment taken down by CBS - it aired briefly in Canada and was uploaded to YouTube
17·2 days agothis was absolutely motivated by ulterior reasons. this story is more important to release. the general public needs to know what is going on even if the full story isn’t present.
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politics @lemmy.world•Stephen Miller melts down as ‘leftist’ jury acquits man who towed ICE truck away
103·3 days agoJury nullification isn’t illegal lmao you fucking fascist crybaby.
WAHHHHHH WAAHHHHHH PEOPLE HAVE RIGHTS WAHHHHH
yes, but so is gender. gender is largely socially enforced. these behaviors and habits will be judged based on how you are perceived.
Plenty of trans people accept their AGAB for some amount of time before realizing that it isn’t correct.
my bad lol i don’t mean it that way, i meant overall if you are accepting of your AGAB you are living as a cisgender person. you can “accept” it in your mind but remain uncomfortable enough to further pursue lines of questioning, yes, but if you haven’t had any incongruence then i would feel it appropriate to say you are cis.
I’m as certain as I reasonably can be.
i get it, but i have been certain of many things only to have lived the opposite result. my point is that you might not realize how relevant your assumed gender is to your overall personal image until people are constantly commenting on it and noticing it.
I simply accepted my AGAB
you are cisgender.
I realized that I don’t feel any connection to this gender
this experience lies on a spectrum. for example, genderqueer folks have had their expression scrutinized and oppressed, so gender identity is more of an issue they think about than the average person. basically, you don’t have to exist with a sense of fulfilment or pride to be comfortable as the gender you’ve been assigned. you not having any incongruence implies your comfort level being seen by society as the gender you present.
I just don’t care about gender.
i want to ask if you are certain of this, because simply not possessing any feelings positive or negative about your gender doesn’t mean you’d be fine if you woke up as the opposite or something in-between. i’m generalizing here, but genuinely think of how you’d feel if you transformed into the opposite gender while retaining who you are right now. all of your beliefs, passions, interests, social expectations, public perception, and many, many other things are impacted by gender. not in a direct way for some but a guy interested in childhood education or a woman choosing not to have kids would both face questions and assumptions because of their gender. you would also be forced to see your body and yourself differently because others would treat you as the new gender you are now presenting as. still don’t care?
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politics @lemmy.world•Trump signs executive order reclassifying cannabis, opening door to broader weed access
112·6 days agoit lowers the focus on the drug though. cannabis has become a low priority for police and this will likely contribute to even lower. it could be used as an indication of inevitable decriminalization if congress needs something to pretend to agree about.
it’s not changing much but it isn’t without benefits either.
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World News@lemmy.world•Israeli minister says war ‘inevitable’ after Syrian troops chant for GazaEnglish
10·14 days agoinevitable as if current conflicts don’t exist.
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World News@lemmy.world•US threatens new ICC sanctions unless court pledges not to prosecute TrumpEnglish
6·14 days agolet them do it. make them the villains to the world.
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A Boring Dystopia@lemmy.world•Richest 0.001% Now Own Three Times More Wealth Than Poorest Half of Humanity Combined
7·14 days agocountries riot and rebel over less
has it though? the -phile suffix isn’t what designates it as sexual. it’s being considered a paraphilia.
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Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•Polar Bears are one of the only creatures that naturally hunt Humans... This one tries to break into the Cameraman's glass box
1042·19 days agojust a note: they don’t hunt humans. they are opportunistic and will include humans in their food supply if necessary. polar bears typically avoid people like other bears.
…? paraphilias are usually sexual in nature, not love based. “pedophile” is the right word for the act of being sexually attracted to children.
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Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•Too few actually have these "habits"
2·20 days agolol #2 can fuck right off. oh okay so MY time is less valuable then which is fine? i will be there when you expect me to. showing up early can make people feel like you are waiting on them and now they are stressed about keeping you waiting. this is such a dumb habit to enforce imo.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Why do vehicle insurance premiums go up & down for seemingly no reason? Should I contact my insurance company to inquire?
2·20 days agobecause they can do whatever the fuck they want lol. it doesn’t matter what justification they have, it’s made up.










of course they goddamn did ahahah nobody can tell a single one of them “no,” or “hey this isn’t a good idea.” they’re all smart, duh.