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  • there is no right way to do therapy. you are open to it being useful and that would have been the only barrier. have you been direct with these therapists? this is your mental health. you are allowed to be an advocate for your needs. tell them you think this isn’t working for you and you’d prefer to talk skills building. you can tell a therapist when you’re not getting any use out of their current approach.

    however, yes, unfortunately the mental health industry is underfunded and underpaid and therefore understaffed. there is a shortage because more and more people need therapy now than ever. you may have to cycle though a lot of bullshit before finding something truly worthwhile. it sucks and is unfair.







  • Plenty of trans people accept their AGAB for some amount of time before realizing that it isn’t correct.

    my bad lol i don’t mean it that way, i meant overall if you are accepting of your AGAB you are living as a cisgender person. you can “accept” it in your mind but remain uncomfortable enough to further pursue lines of questioning, yes, but if you haven’t had any incongruence then i would feel it appropriate to say you are cis.

    I’m as certain as I reasonably can be.

    i get it, but i have been certain of many things only to have lived the opposite result. my point is that you might not realize how relevant your assumed gender is to your overall personal image until people are constantly commenting on it and noticing it.


  • I simply accepted my AGAB

    you are cisgender.

    I realized that I don’t feel any connection to this gender

    this experience lies on a spectrum. for example, genderqueer folks have had their expression scrutinized and oppressed, so gender identity is more of an issue they think about than the average person. basically, you don’t have to exist with a sense of fulfilment or pride to be comfortable as the gender you’ve been assigned. you not having any incongruence implies your comfort level being seen by society as the gender you present.

    I just don’t care about gender.

    i want to ask if you are certain of this, because simply not possessing any feelings positive or negative about your gender doesn’t mean you’d be fine if you woke up as the opposite or something in-between. i’m generalizing here, but genuinely think of how you’d feel if you transformed into the opposite gender while retaining who you are right now. all of your beliefs, passions, interests, social expectations, public perception, and many, many other things are impacted by gender. not in a direct way for some but a guy interested in childhood education or a woman choosing not to have kids would both face questions and assumptions because of their gender. you would also be forced to see your body and yourself differently because others would treat you as the new gender you are now presenting as. still don’t care?