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All you’re doing is telling other trans people that their gender recognition is conditionally valid only on their good behavior, and that it can be revoked if they piss you off. Maybe consider why this would make trans people feel unsafe with you, even if they are on your side politically.

I’m hoping that “assist” here is a polite way of saying “keeping an eye on”. Maybe they’ll think twice about pulling shit with non police union folks around who could testify against them later.

Hey buddy, I just want to say- normal people do feel. Big feelings are very normal! It’s okay to let yourself be a romantic, and it’s okay to get heartbroken sometimes too. And it’s also okay to say you need a break from dating if it’s stressing you out to much. The important thing is making sure you feel emotionally supported through any of these decisions.

You mentioned you’re far from family. Do you have local friends that you are close with (nonromantically) who you can talk about this kind of stuff with? Men too often are left emotionally isolated in society, and it’s important that you have that kind of support outside of romantic relationships too.

If you’re feeling ungrounded and uncertain where things are going with this woman even when you’re very excited to spend time with her, it can feel like a lot of pressure to do things “right” or not “mess it up”. That can be really hard on your self esteem when you put that kind of responsibility solely on your shoulders! Relationships are team efforts. I’d maybe try to reframe your situation from “I met this woman and she might be the one but she’s got a long distance bf and what if she chooses him over me??” to something more like “I really enjoy this woman’s company, and while she’s figuring out what her long term plan is, I’m happy to spend time with her. If her long term plans don’t align with mine by [date], we can talk about what next steps that means for us, including breaking up.”

Whatever comes next for you, best of luck friend. You deserve people in your corner who support you enthusiastically.

So is the critique for Southern Company for writing some marketing material, or for The Atlantic for running an ad about it?

I’m really not one to defend companies, but this is a bit of a weird take, and it makes the author sound really unfamiliar with this business sector. White papers are very common and not peer reviewed, basically they’re a glorified memo with statistics. Don’t rely on white papers for any information besides what that company is saying about itself and its experience.

Is there a reason you have characterized this incident as a gender issue?

Was the poor work the work of the nurse who heard you and chewed you out? Do you often criticize the work of your coworkers in a nonproductive manner, expletives or no?

Did you say anything else before saying “fuck” to your coworker, or before she chewed you out? Do you think you were on good terms with her before this incident?

Are you listening to the specifics of your coworkers’ complaints? What are they asking you to do differently?

Hi! Not strictly a lesbian here but in a lesbian relationship. Yes, lesbians have top/bottom dynamics typically in the “one doing the action” vs the “one being acted upon” across various different acts. Most switch it up (“vers”), rather than identifying primarily as tops or bottoms. If you are strictly a top or strictly a bottom, you’re described as “stone” as in “stone top” or “stone bottom”.

Very important that these are completely different roles than dominant/submissive/switch, which are BDSM terms and describe a more psychological aspect of a relationship than the more physical top/bottom/vers.

If you get denied for coverage for something you know is in your plan always ask for the name and credentials of whoever made the denial! If they are not an MD they are not supposed to make that call as that can be interpreted as practicing medicine (determining if someone gets treatment or not) without a license. Often insurance companies will back down if you assert that you need a medical professional to review the denial /your appeal of the denial. (YMMV/IANAL)

Are we talking gross or net income as the baseline? Before taxes, $7k a month is still under $100k annually.

Is this a community, or is this a circlejerk? I don’t think categorizing beginners who don’t know where to start as leeches creates the kind of environment people of all knowledge levels want to spend time in. You don’t personally have to educate them, but telling them off for asking is pretty rude.

Just curious, but why is your description of an entirely different incident than the headline?

You could look at it another way- a solar power screen on a phone won’t charge it all the way, but as a secondary source of power that is essentially always on when the sun is up or other light sources are on, it reduces the battery drain over the day, meaning less charging needed at night.

I think they have a little bit of both, which is important! One of the best Brennan quotes was “people think I’m nice, but I just conform to the genre”

She’s a Stan Shunpike- radicalized offscreen, leaving everyone else confused

Not to dissect the frog on the complaining-about-dissecting-the-frog post, but my interpretation was that those sorts of responses are less on the admonishing OP or their friends for having fun shenanigans, and more of as a heads-up to other players reading it why their DM might not allow the same shenanigans if they were to do similarly in their game. Plenty of folks on here are not 100% versed on every D&D rule out there, and I think it’s okay to make informative comments that help people learn the game better.

It sounds like they’ve broken up, so unfortunately couples therapy isn’t likely to be on the table, you can’t realistically ask that of an ex.

*She. Please don’t misgender her, it plays right into these transphobes’ hands of questioning her gender.

Yeah, but are they paying any of their own money to take care of those kids for two decades?

Yes. Taxes. People without kids still pay taxes for things like education, meal programs, etc. People with kids get a tax break to compensate for the cost of raising kids. You’re asking for something already built into how we support parents and children in America.

Correct, I should clarify, you are likely safe brewing sun tea at those ambient temperatures because the glass of the brewing vessel will trap the sun and heat the tea higher than that, like a car traps heat on a hot day. You’ll likely hit 130F+ easily and be out of the danger zone!

And for those of you who only know temperatures based on brewing tea or coffee:

123F: Probably insufficient for even fairly delicate teas. You could probably make “sun tea” at this temperature by leaving tea in room temperature water to be heated by the sun, but this is not recommended as anything below ~130F is considered the danger zone for bacterial growth.

170F: This is the appropriate temperature for delicate or green teas to preserve flavor, antioxidants, and prevent bitterness.

200F: An acceptable temperature below boiling (212F) for black teas and coffee where overextraction is minimal.

109F: Unacceptable for tea brewing, barely above body temperature.