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Cake day: July 19th, 2023

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  • So I’m not low low cost. Live on the east coast after moving from a high cost area of living so I could buy a home.

    Median household income is ~$80,000 here or $40k per person

    I spend ~$3300 a month for two people and pets living comfortably. I removed my mortgage and any car payments but that includes everything from auto insurance, home insurance, auto maintenance for two relatively new cars, groceries and utilities.

    Home taxes are $1600/year and home insurance is $550 but average around here are closer to $800. Not included in the total above.

    Home is ~1500 sqft

    • ~$200 for electric, no gas so that’s mostly air conditioning/heat. Prices go up in summer, don’t get much snow here so Winter is mostly off.

    • ~$50 Water includes sewer since we’re connected here. Other commenters can share about being on a well but if your buying off main sewer, expect to pay $$$ when it needs to be replaced. Set aside money as if you had a water payment and take care of it with maintenance.

    • HOA includes trash at $70 a month.

    • Internet, fiber is $50. Subscriptions are ~$45 on top. Phones are $60 for two lines. Most friends in more rural areas have cable/fiber but a few have satellite or just mobile phone Internet. About 2+ hours from nearest metropolitan city. Satellite is terrible and expensive so recommend checking https://broadbandmap.fcc.gov/ before you buy if that’s important to you.

    • Car insurance $200 for two cars covered 300/100. Gas is $200. Auto maintenance is $165 and includes taxes, and all the other fun stuff related to owning cars. – If your young, a guy, have accident history insurance will be higher. Don’t skip if you can’t afford to replace your car and don’t get budget insurance to save. Gas is probably going to depend on your commute. And maintenance is going to depend on your car. Taxes are $300-600 a year each car including property taxes, DMV registration, etc.

    • Groceries, $400-600. Eating out $200. This is probably the biggest variable expense.

    • $400 misc spending for two. Includes random shopping for the household and any fun money.

    • $300 for various gifts birthdays, Christmas, and extra spending to host Christmas or other events. Half of this is just building up for winter where we spend a decent chunk. Sometimes this is used to fly home for the holidays.

    • $400 home maintenance budget. Saving for big fixes or general repairs. This will be much higher there first two years. For reference I’ve got a few pending maintenance repairs that are likely to cost ~$6,000 each expected in the next 5-8 years. (HVAC, water heater, roof, landscaping to deal with erosion and eventually some remodeling). Budget also includes collecting tools.

    • Pets $200. Food, litter, toys, etc.

    • $130 Health related expenses. Doesn’t include insurance which is $400/month out of the paycheck.

    And I’m going to plug YNAB which is why I have these numbers, it costs $120/yr which is included. Highly recommend doing some kind of budgeting even if it’s on paper in a notebook once a month because all these costs can creep up. If you want free electronic use a spreadsheet.



  • I steered away from replacing my router with a PC and got an ER-X and virtualized everything else including TrueNAS on an old office PC. Having PCI-E slots helps with stability a ton when virtualizing and my setup has 64gb DDR3 which was cheap.

    Ubiquiti APs are typically the homeLab standard and work great especially with multiple APs. You can start with turning your existing router to AP mode and replace with APs later.

    For stability, you can create a “test network” on the ER-X. This is an incredibly useful unofficial guide to setup ER-X with multiple lan networks, APs and more. Then create redundancy with docker containers on a Pi. (put DNS server on proxmox system and a second on the Pi so if one goes down, DNS works).

    For your home assistant question, does the backups or copy/paste data folder not meet your needs?








  • Not a professional and you should reach out to a dog trainer if possible.

    In the meantime, negative reinforcement will not give you the desired responses. You could end up increasing reactiveness, justifying their behavior or having them only fear and listen when you’re around.

    Instead a lot of the basic rules of parenting a toddler applies. Positive reinforcement and distraction techniques are preferred from trainers I’ve worked with. Treating the chewing is easier than responding to the aggression. But training overall will help both.

    If you have something they want more, they should give up what they took.

    • Training them the leave it command can be helpful.
    • see if you can get more toys or other things they want to chew. Chewing can be a sign of boredom.
    • It may be substantially easier to train in a more neutral environment, indoors, on leash, etc (such as a room they don’t normally go in)
    • as others said, keep items out of reach. Only give him things they enjoy when they are in their space (such as a create or room)

    This article has some information about possessive aggression that seems to provide good information.