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Cake day: June 4th, 2023

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  • Right? At this point I’m just sticking with WordPress because I can’t be bothered to migrate a bunch of sites off of it. Every year for the past decade it’s felt jankier. Tumblr’s backend has to be a dumpster fire for this to seem like a good idea.

    My criticism aside, WP still has the convenience factor of being the open source web platform that has a plugin for just about any need. Whether those plugins are gonna break for site or introduce interesting new vulnerabilities is a different discussion.



  • I love this, but also found it hilarious - especially the towel as a helicopter blade trick and your description of it being “very undesirable for the fly.” I’m picturing your partner or housemate sighing and being like, “there they go again, herding flies.” I can definitely see it working though.



  • Good to know. I’ve only been using Proton for like 4 months now and have thus far generally liked the experience, but that’s too bad about your experiences with the Drive client. I’ve used several paid business suites over the years through work and they all have their issues though. The only one that was generally solid was Google’s and I’ve gradually taken steps to remove their products from my life so there’s no going back to them for me. It was also almost 10 years ago since I last used Google’s paid email/Drive, so maybe it’s also gone to shit.







  • Obviously I could be misreading it myself given that I’m only experiencing the circumstances via your post, but what seems to give away that he’s into you is just how you describe your interactions with him. The making eyes from across the room, gravitating toward you, paying special attention (especially offering to drive you home) - those are all pretty good signs, especially when taken together.

    And yeah, I think it was mostly the use of the word “protect” that made me second guess his personality. He could just have a weird way of talking, but that wording puts my guard up a little. That isn’t to say that he’s a weirdo, but it certainly makes it worth approaching with a bit of caution - especially given the big age gap. Maybe he doesn’t necessarily chase younger women and he’s just enamored by you in particular. But, there are a looooot of older guys out there who prey on younger women because they feel that they can control them.

    Also, you said you’re “not expecting anything serious.” Be careful there as well - he very well may have something different in mind. It’s a big age gap that I’d generally advise against for lots of reasons, and different life stages is a big part of that. He could be looking to settle down, start a family, etc. If you were in your early 20s I’d say run, but being that you’re both full adults and you might be ultimately looking for the same things, you do you. That is, as long as you’re not getting any red flags. Maybe a coffee date or whatever wouldn’t be a bad idea to see what vibes you’re getting from him in a different setting.

    Again though, I’m a total outsider so take this all with a big grain of salt and go with your own gut.





  • If you can’t sleep and are trying to kill time anyway, why not look into something like mindfulness meditation? It might help you keep some of those anxious thoughts in check to the point where you can actually focus on something to take your mind off of whatever is causing your issues.

    I’m sure it’s not for everyone, but it helped me a lot when I was at my worst.

    Also, you indicate that your anxiety and depression are due to some personal issues (which it sounds like will no longer be an issue in a month). If I’m understanding that correctly, that sucks for the time being but I’m glad to hear it has an expiration date. If those are feelings you deal with chronically, however, and you have the means to do so, I highly suggest trying to find professional help. The right meds can make an absolute world of difference, and talk therapy can help you straighten out how you approach those feelings.

    Whatever route you take, I hope this passes for you soon and you start to feel so much better. Those feelings suck, but life can absolutely get better.