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Cake day: February 22nd, 2026

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  • I wouldn’t do it based on join time. Age doesn’t always map to quality, and it might encourage people to make sleeper accounts to age up.

    I would do it based on a graph of trust.

    Let’s say you’re user 0. You trust yourself. You can then invite or vouch for a user. If they misbehave, it should reflect badly on you. If they post good content, you should share some of the glory. If one of those users invites someone, the good and bad flow upstream.

    People no one has vouched for have very little power. You can filter them out with a toggle.

    You’d be able to see the web of behavior. If someone keeps inviting or endorsing assholes, then they’re a problem.

    Endorsing is different than upvote. You can upvote whatever, but endorsing is saying you trust this person and you’re willing to put your own reputation and access on the line.

    Something like that.










  • There’s a few strands of toxic monogamy that are pretty common. Really jealous, controlling, and with poor emotional regulation.

    I’m lucky my current partner is very chill about these things. I’m still good friends with two previous partners and it’s never been an issue. We’ve all hung out together.


  • It’s a shame there isn’t more language education in the US. We had one class on a foreign language starting in sixth grade, which is pretty late.

    Most things here are mono lingual. I visited Montreal and I feel like if I was there for a few months, my rudimentary French would really develop. Unfortunately, the one time I tried to speak to someone there who didn’t speak English, it didn’t go super well. She was patient, but we weren’t really understanding each other. All my French is reading and writing, so I have an incredibly bad accent.



  • I was looking at the costs of raising a child the other day and I don’t know how anyone does it. My job pays garbage with trash health insurance.

    I’m just so mad at the management class with their high pay and not doing any actual work. My boss seems fine - I think he knows this is bullshit and goes a little out of his way to make it easier for me. But everyone above him? If I saw them drowning I’d have to think a long time before throwing a life vest.