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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • I would go ahead recommend and not be a pompous ass who says sportsball, you are not better than others or unique because you don’t like sports.

    And then to answer your question I don’t think it has much to do with the sport itself.

    1. i think it’s the trigger not the cause.
    2. Big crowd+alcohol and other substances
    3. the crowd anonymity effect or whatever if it even has a name, if only one person in a crowd starts kicking over a trashcan and gets some cheers, it can and will quickly spread through the crowd who will start doing it and/or escalate what they do as they feel kinda safe, because they are not doing it alone. The same way when you do something you are kinda afraid to do doing it with a friend (if you had any) gives you more courage.

    Or to quote Man in Black “A person is smart. People are dumb, panicky dangerous animals, and you know it.”

    Think about January 6, you think if you ask then individually if it’s a good idea to go to the capitol alone and overthrow try to overthrow a government and theyd probably call you stupid for the idea, but put them in a crowd where they mutually encourage each other and give each other a sense of security and they will go ahead and do it the dumb bastards.










  • Hey man, I am 33 and I feel like I wasted lots of years not being social, during Uni for example, not living my life enough due to low confidence and social anxiety, now my friends have their kids, married for a while etc, while I do have my career at a good place I can relate to your feelings.

    First of all, stop comparing yourself to others, nothing ever good comes out of that, you can look at them for motivation, ask them for advice how to achieve something, but stop comparing yourself, everyone goes at their own pace.

    I also had terrible anxiety during Uni, leaving everything to last minute, major anxiety during finals, barely got through it, but do you know what we call medical students who finish last in their class? Doctor. University is nothing, you know basically nothing after finish it, for most things it makes 0 difference whether you finish it with a B+ average or a D-, no one has ever asked me what grades I got in Uni (though I am in software development so YMMV).

    Second of all have you considered not finishing Uni at all? Plenty of well paying jobs out there, something that might even make you happy. Trade jobs. Don’t fall victim to the sunk cost fallacy of having finish something because you already invested so much time and effort into it.

    And lastly, get in touch with a professional, whatever you are going through is temporary, life is awesome, but short, focus on the positives, don’t waste it worrying about meaningless shit like degrees and status and how others are doing, you do you mate.