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  • okwhateverdude@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world*Permanently Deleted*
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    1 month ago

    Nothing but empathy for you here, bro. Try some drugs. Not the shrink drugs, but some psychedelics. There is some inherent risk with HPPD, but you’re already wanting to opt-out of life, so that could be acceptable. Read up on set and setting, do the prep, find someone experienced that will trip sit. And be prepared to feel overwhelmed, possibly from profound thoughts, and for some very honest introspection and soul searching. Totally okay to sob your heart out. Psychedelics are not a panacea, but they can be a tool to help you out of the local minimum.


  • okwhateverdude@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldIs "retard" a slur?
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    2 months ago

    I think “slur” also requires a component of direct offense for it mean anything. I don’t think it is valid to be offended for somebody else if that somebody else isn’t actually offended. If I make up a slur on the spot denigrating some aspect of your person that you do not find offensive (eg. Flumplenook - for a person who’s a bit clumsy), is it really a slur?

    So if you call someone retarded, and they do not have the mental faculties to be offended, is it really a slur?

    For slurs to have any meaning, any power, they need to be understood and internalized as offensive.




  • okwhateverdude@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.worldEvening focus
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    3 months ago

    During my early adult years when I first moved out on my own and it was just me, I flipped my schedule to sleep 1700 until whenever I woke up. No alarms. Could sleep in every day because the result was “Oh no, still have many hours until work”. Would work 0700 until 1600. It was amazing. I was so awake and focused on my own stuff. Could practice piano, write poetry, work on open source code during those wee hours. Early morning work was also very productive. Afternoon work time was meh, but that was okay because of how the work was structured. Would bike into the office since it was only about 8km (5 mile) via residential streets. Do my grocery shopping at a 24hr market. Laundry room at my apartment complex was always open. It was such a magical time. Lonely, but would see friends late nights as their shifts ended or the evening was just peaking. Plus all my internet friends on IRC from all over.


  • okwhateverdude@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.worldEvening focus
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    3 months ago

    What I’ve done before when I feel like I don’t have time for stuff I want to do is shift your hours a little bit to give yourself more time before work. If you take your meds first thing in the morning, you’ll get to enjoy all of that focus to yourself first, then work gets the dregs (as is proper)






  • Why is work so important for you? I think you’ll find that a large number of people simply go through the motions because the stakes are low and their lives outside of work are more interesting. To them, it is an exchange of labor (that isn’t valued anyway) for (not enough) money. Why push yourself at work when it simply doesn’t matter? And what will drive you nuts later is that people from that “lazy” group will eventually end up promoted over you. The work is ultimately inconsequential, but the relationships built matter.

    I don’t really have an answer for you other than to introspect a little bit on your work ethic.