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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • You can see other people in a reflection without them being able to see you.

    It is not possible to see someone else’s eyes (except from the side, so it’s only seeing their eyes in profile) in a reflection without them being able to see you too.

    It’s literally not possible via reflection, as everything is equal and opposite. If light can go from their eyes to yours, it’s also possible to go the opposite direction.

    This is what everyone has been saying but instead of thinking through everything clearly, you resorted to bullying.

    The only way to accomplish this one-way vision is by adding something that is not reflection to the system (like a one-way window), but that’s breaking the premise under which everyone else has been commenting in good faith.




  • Not providing this anecdote as a rebuttal, just as food for thought since I’ve barely seen anyone mention this.

    I have put a lot of thought into my sexuality/identity, but regardless of all of those thoughts my articulation will boil down to:

    I want bio kids, until we can modify the genetic material of eggs/sperm so that two people of the same biological gender can have a biological child, my only option is someone with the opposite reproductive organs.

    It doesn’t matter how much I am attracted to someone, I won’t roll loaded dice on having kids. If my partner and I discovered when we finally try to have kids that one or both of us is sterile, then so be it — but I’d like the dice we roll to not have a known outcome ahead of time.


  • Not looking for a partner anymore anyway, but the first one is my only reason. If we got to a point medically/scientifically where bio kids were possible then that sole reason would go away.

    I’m fine ending up with no kids because I and/or my partner are infertile and we don’t know yet, but I’m not fine starting a relationship wanting something that the other person knows I can’t have with them and not telling me until later.

    Honestly I think it would be helpful if the dating apps just had some hidden questions like “are you interested in having kids?” and if yes also asked “do you want biological kids?” and if you answer them your potential matches are automatically filtered down. I have two rationales for this, 1. because it frees up space in bio and keeps your preferences semi-private, and 2. it avoids potentially awkward conversations or other potentially awkward public judgemental. (I’m guessing there aren’t already questions like this.)