Hi friend, it’s not my instance and not my business, but have you considered that lemmy maybe doesn’t have the userbase to support the number of highly niche and specific communities you’ve been making lately? I’m concerned that our own /c/gaming in total is probably getting less posts than an /r/rpclipsgta would get on Reddit. This, in my mind, will kind of make lemmy look like a ghost town, with hundreds of empty comms at less than one post per month, posts which would all probably fit in and be voted up in their relevant umbrella communities, until we get our userbase up and actually start experiencing crowding in those umbrella communities. Have you considered things from this angle?

They did defederate with us (lemmygrad) long before the reddit drama actually, and definitely for political reasons, but as of lately their reasons for their recent defederation from the other, less-political instances seem much more pragmatic. There was talk of defederating with lemmy.ml too for similar reasons to why they defederated from lemmygrad, but I’m wrong about the recent reasons, the newer defederation surge seems to be for a multitude of reasons.

When some liberals find themselves on the right wing of an argument, a really common rhetorical strategy they use is to pivot to accuse their opponents of being socially backwards. Most of the anti-LGBT critiques coming from the Beehaw camp are just materially uninformed attempts to claim moral high ground and deflect away from an actual heavy hitting discussion

In short, the majority of the fediverse was (and probably still is, despite the large influx of redditors?) highly communist in nature, but Beehaw, being predominantly moderated by liberals, were getting so dogpiled for their aggressive anticommunism that they just threw up their hands and started defeferating with any instance that disagreed with them from the left at the drop of a hat. At this point they’re probably cut off from 75% or more of the fediverse and I’m sure blissfully ignorant in their little liberal bubble. We’re probably not getting them back and to be honest I’m not sure it’d be rewarding to have them back, if their users want proper discourse they can just make an account over here.

fwiw, you can’t actually vote and comment on them, when federation is removed that means every communication from here to there is ignored - posts, comments, votes, user DMs, all of it. We can still see their posts, but what’s happening is we’re federally pulling their posts over to our side, you’re voting and commenting on them, this instance is recording those votes and comments, and when it tries to send them over for federation purposes beehaw rejects them.