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Cake day: December 16th, 2025

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  • First part is interesting. I didn’t think to try changing the wording and avoiding saying shy. Maybe saying something like “So is sounds like it’s really important to you to make friends with other kids”. I’ll think about it

    She has a lot of friends and loves playing with them. Neighbors, school, etc. She basically wants to always play with kids or me, but admittedly, I can’t keep up with a 5yo energy wise. And she is always asking to play with friends.

    In an art class, she has a new friend and they laugh and talk the whole class. She also will joke with the teacher. She cried before going the first couple times, and adamantly “hates” the class before the class, but everytime comes out happy and says she loved it.

    Maybe you are right about getting out of the way. I’ll try having a phone call in the hall or something next time.








  • https://www.streetepistemology.com/

    Check this out. I used to do things like this with hard core right wing (trump flags, cleaning their guns everyday).

    My goal wasn’t to convince them, but get them to think critically and feel safe around liberals. The ones I talked to were usually convinced leftists were out to get them. I was a leftist who would literally just listen to them, watch Fox news with them and then we’d get burritos and hang out.

    I want them to think of me and other friends, when they see videos of ICE beating up people. I’ll never convince them to vote blue, but maybe I can convince them that we can disagree about politics, but still be friends




  • Yeah, she’s told me in pretty much every occasion that she’s scared the kids or teacher will be mean, but after a couple classes she’s fine. Similar with play dates. She’s not stressed by social situations at all (other than new ones), in fact, she craves friends a lot and often tells me that she wants to play with other kids. I’m school and neighborhood, she’s often the leader and organizes the games for kids.

    I’m not trying to make her extroverted to be clear, but I’d actually say she’s more extroverted than me. Shyness isn’t introversion. In fact, my push for a hobby is to effectively get her more friends to balance playdates that she wants.





  • I’ve tried a number of different hobbies and it’s a struggle usually. With an art class she was crying beforehand, but I sat next to her and she was fine after the first class. She has fun and laughs as she makes silly stuff.

    The “forcing” is just the first couple times, but she’d literally just stay home eternally if I didn’t make her do things. Other than at least one exercise/movement hobby for health, I kind of don’t care what the hobbies are, but want her to do something.