FYI: I’ve got RP, with some very narrow, but still decent, central vision. But I need a white cane to get around safely. I’ve got two questions about people trying to help me get around. I live in the US:
Question one: when someone offers to guide me, I know the normal procedure is to grab one of their elbows. But I really prefer to put my hand on their shoulder, so I usually ask if that’s OK. Is there any advantage to me to using the elbow instead?
Question two: I’ve had several experiences when people don’t offer to help, but just grab me and push or pull. Not sure how to react, since they’re really just trying to help, but I don’t understand why anyone would do that without asking if it’s ok with me first
First, the idea of holding the elbow is that you and the guide are walking with a more natural posture and communication can be streamlined through natural body movement. Give it a try.
Second, I go from gently and politely asking them to let go and explaining I don’t need help, to assertively ordering. It’s great to assume it’s all well-meaning ignorance, but you may end up needing to protect yourself.