• overkrill@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    2 days ago

    and unfortunately you ultimately need that person to be yourself. its necessary to be valued, and your partner should absolutely appreciate your beauty, but no amount of external validation will fill the void. pro tip from someone who hasnt figured out how to do it yet 🐌

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      2 days ago

      I have to disagree, but only a little. Sometimes that external validation can help a person see their own beauty as well. Speaking from experience. He seems to appreciate it so it’s easier to be nicer to myself.

      • 1D10@lemmy.world
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        1 day ago

        That’s not true, you can love anyone no mater how they feel.

        Your statement kills hope, “well if you can’t love your self no one will like you” might as well give up.

        I love people who don’t even know I exist, some of the most self loathing people I have met are in committed loving relationships, I’m not talking about proformitive self hate but sitting in the dark drinking wine laying it all out to a friend you know you can trust self hate.