Idk why I always wake up with either my sides or neck or smth hurting when I wake up but that didn’t happen while I stayed at a hotel. It’s not like I’m an old broken man who should be waking up expecting this.
Be very careful. An expensive mattress, if you care for it, can last a long time and will definitely help with your pains. But just because it is expensive does not mean it is actually good, let alone good for you specifically. There are many types of different mattresses and you should take some time to find one for you.
TLDR: lie down on it before buying.
Check out Sleep like the dead
It helped me get the most value for my money and I solved my back pain issues. Also, I simply couldn’t be happier with my sleep these days.
Thanks for the link!
Woo that’s a nice link! Thank you!
This is the way. Used this website to help choose my last 2 mattresses and it was pretty spot on. I also recommend this site to anyone I talk to who are looking for a good comparison on mattresses prior to purchasing.
As a fellow side sleeper who just bought a Purple mattress, just remember to buy a plush/soft mattress. The reason you are hurting is because you are sleeping on your side on a, probably, cheap and firm mattress.
Firm mattresses are for back sleepers. Soft mattresses are for side gang, like us.
I will say Purple is just incredible if you can afford it but try it at a store first before committing. The important thing, though, is to get a soft, well-made mattress.
I sleep on my side. I love firm futons. Soft mattresses make me very sore and cause me to have poor sleep. Just because you sleep on your side doesn’t mean you have to have a soft mattress.
There’s always an exception to the rule.
I’ve also had a great night’s sleep on my side using firm futons or even the floor, doesn’t mean that it isn’t better for side sleepers to use softer mattresses.
Dude, I just realized, is your name a play on Søren Kierkegaard?
Yep, it was supposed to be snoren, but I mistyped it.
That’s so funny. I love Kierkegaard, you have an awesome name!
Hope you can find a better mattress to improve your sleep.
Haha thanks. Would guessing ikiru being the kurosawa film be too obvious?
It is obvious, but that’s exactly where I got it from. Haha
I love the film and it made me learn and appreciate the word, but I also love the word used in this way as a kind of homage to living, or existence itself, and a nod to existentialism and phenomenology.
Thats cool! I love Ikiru too, the first half especially.
Have you by any chance read The death if Ivan Ilyich by Tolstoy?
The first half?! I should probably rewatch it in case I’m forgetting something but I think I love life-affirmation of the second half. Not trying to judge but the first half is so depressing. Haha What do you love about it?
But, no, I haven’t read it, unfortunately. I know Ikiru is based off it though, right? I still see Ikiru as a kind of Christ story.
So what about those of us who sleep on the side some of the night and back the rest of the time. Sometimes I like to sleep on my stomach.
The compromise: medium mattresses.
I’m the same and I prefer a firm mattress with a soft topper.
Never skimp on anything between you and the ground
Meh I don’t think major mattress companies really justify they wildly inflated prices. This might have gotten better over the last few years, but you used to have to pay $2000 for something you could get shipped in a box from Amazon at $200 for similar quality.
I recommend checking out https://www.sleeplikethedead.com/ to help choose a mattress. It’s independent and free of advertisements.
Doing some top quality research here:
Mattress Types and Sex Suitability
There is an old proverb I heard once. “Don’t cheap out on things that separate you from the ground”
When it comes to things like mattresses, shoes, and chairs do your research and buy the best option you can. It will save you a lot of pain later in life
Or at least use GFCI
GFCI?
It’s an electricity joke (“separates you from the ground”).
Applies to tires also, and for the same reason.
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Maybe. I just bought a shikibuton that was $500. It’s a Japanese floor mattress. It solved almost all of my pain problems. I’ve been sleeping on it for about 3 weeks now, and honestly it’s amazing. The floor doesn’t sag so everything stays aligned.
I also bought a $5000 mattress that I’ve yet to receive. Only reason I bought it was because my wife was mad I bought something for me only (she thinks it’s stupid that I’m willing to sleep on the floor at all…anyway…). It felt nice at the store…but we’ll see when it gets here. It was an Aireloom Luxury Firm.
Good to see another futon lover!
Probably just a brand issue, but every futon I’ve ever been on, which has unfortunately been a lot of them, has been incredibly uncomfortable and you can feel every bar as if there wasn’t even cushioning.
The thin futons are like that, I tested several in the store before I chose. The one I have is thick enough to not feel the bars. There is one thicker (it has more wool) that I would probably choose next time because the wool does compress over time. I don’t really see the point of the thin ones, they were definitely uncomfortable.
It’s because it hurt my soul to spend a bunch of money on a mattress. Plus, I like the aesthetics of folding up my bed when I get up, having that space available for use.
How’d you end up liking futons?
I slept on a futon at my grandparent’s place and really enjoyed the comfort. It’s also nice to be lower to the ground for some reason, and in general I love the Japanese aesthetic.
The base I bought can convert to a couch or into a sitting upright position which is nice for watching movies or reading. I unfortunately miss out on regaining floor space though.
My wife is on an Aireloom. She asked for the hardest mattress in the store (probably 100 models) and the sales guy really tried to talk her out of it because it’s THAT hard. She could sleep on bare concrete and that mattress has been a godsend to her.
Can confirm… sleeping on the floor does wonders to aches and pains.
You guys sleep in separate beds?
We do at the moment. I couldn’t stand sleeping in that bed because I’d wake up in pain every day. Once we get the new mattress, we’ll be back in the same bed.
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I have so many reasons to sleep in another bed, but I really love them cuddles.
I went from a cheap Amazon mattress to a fancy temperpedic mattress and it was absolutely worth every penny
What I did was I went to a mattress store to try out mattresses to see what I was looking to buy
The mattress I ended up buying was one that I laid down on and fell asleep almost instantly
Just find a local mattress store with a lot of options and start testing them out for yourself
Sleep number 100 here. Belly sleeper I prefer “very firm”. Husband is sleep number 32 , back & side sleeper and wants all the fluff, this is why we have sleep number that was purchased 10 years ago and still works.
Edit: the sleep number mattress we bought was third cheapest. Just enough to get the app access to the firmness adjuster.
We love our SleepNumber as well! Been worth the money for sure. Nowadays they’re basically all the same models, but you pay for the upgrades (more foam, heating and cooling, being able to raise/lower head and feet)
Price aside, just don’t do what I did: use an old mattress way past its usable life (e.g. like 10 years… it was creaking).
I started having back pain. And once I got a new one, I immediately felt better.
I’m very happy with my purchase and it wasn’t even that expensive. It’s one of those internet “mattress in a box” ones. I paid ~$300 back in 2019, though it looks like it goes for $420 now. Brand is Lucid on Amazon. It’s a hybrid style: it has both pocketed / encased coils like a traditional mattress, and layers of memory foam and latex on top.
A good mattress is worth it, but don’t just go into a store like Mattress Firm (despite how good the company name is) and buy whatever they’ve got on display. Do some research first. Costco have some good mattresses but you can’t really try them out first.
Don’t get one that’s extremely soft because you’ll probably like firmer mattresses as you get older. You can add a topper to make it softer if needed.
Probably. Quality typically correlates with cost and the quality of your sleep is one of the most important things in life
Is it worth the money? You’re going to spend something like 1/3 of your time on it. Make it a good one.
Anything between you and the ground is always worth buying quality. Shoes, tires, mattresses, etc.
I don’t know your age, health, etc, but there are lots of reasons we hurt other than age. Ergonomics, repetitive stress injuries, regular old injuries. It doesn’t take much to compound these issues into something that interferes with your life.
I spent the last twenty years sleeping on a mattress that wasn’t right for my sleep style. It didn’t feel great sleeping on my side and it has a slight divot. I didn’t wake up in pain, but it definitely impacted the quality of my sleep.
I recently moved and bought a new tempurpedic. I went in, went through a calibration test of sorts and tried the top recommended matches. Ended up buying the top match, which was way expensive, but I now consistently get the quality of sleep I used to get at best once a week.
Two things: the mattress was $3k, and I still have chronic shoulder pain I manage with home physical therapy.
I guess my point is, the best mattress won’t fix a problem not caused by a bad mattress. You might need PT, stretching, or some other physical routine to help manage your particular pain, just like I have special exercises for my shoulder that if I stop, it will start hurting again and prevent me from sleeping on my side, no matter the mattress.
So before you throw down money on a mattress, make sure you rule other reasonable things out, and make sure you understand the return policy. E.g., of you remove the tags you can’t return, of there is any discoloration, no return, etc. Just make sure you have the details down pat.
