Most friendships in reality are built on convenience, routine, or proximity, not some deep meaningful bond. Once the shared environment disappears, so does the relationship. A big part of what people call “friendship” is just structured social habit — people to talk to so life feels less empty or repetitive. In that sense, having friends isn’t automatically valuable. It depends entirely on whether the connection actually adds anything to your life or just fills silence. Some people are better off alone than surrounded by low-quality connections they feel obligated to maintain.

  • Simon_Shitewood@lemmy.ml
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    6 days ago

    I think you’re mistaking peers for friends, which are very similar in school and university, but once you’re out of those heavily structured environments making friends and maintaining friendships isn’t just automatic - it requires taking purposeful actions to spend time with them. If you don’t have a desire to spend time your free time with them they’re not friends, they’re just people you know.