• jtrek@startrek.website
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    7 天前

    Also people who say “don’t just write hey!” and then have absolutely no hooks in their profile.

    Put a hook. Not a cliché or pickup line. Something you want them to talk to you about. You set the starting conditions. Use that advantage.

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      6 天前

      How met my wife on OkCuipd. She had a detailed profile and saw we liked the same shows, so I used that to start a conversation. And then went from there. Been together 13 years now!

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        6 天前

        Okcupid used to be so much better. You could search by interests. Like last year I was sitting here going “can’t I just find another nerd who likes Elden Ring?”, and I remembered you used to be able to.

        Match Group has blood on their hands and if there was justice they would not be living rich lives.

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          Oh yeah I remember that. Had filters to. Like I smoked cigarettes back then. So it asked if you did allowed people who didn’t like smokers filter out. Vis versa I could find like minded people. Like my wife who didn’t smoke but didn’t have issues with me smoking. At least at the time. Thanks to her been smoke free 10 years now.