this is a continuation to my post ‘where do you draw the line if you ponder quitting a job?’
manager is now ‘helping’ me find a position elsewhere, but I believe she dislikes me so much she wants me gone asap. Her friends have turned to silent treatment mode. Each day, she asks me if I’ve interviewed already. It’s like she wants me to have a new job lined up before Christmas already.
it’s starting to sink in that she doesn’t want me, but I’m not so sure I want to quit:
I know it doesn’t make any sense. As said, I dislike 30% of my coworkers and if I’ve already told management with my union representative present that as soon as I find something else I quit, I should be consequent and do that. I dislike getting up at 4:30 to get to work at 06:00, yet this is the kind of life I know, the routines I’ve grown to be used to, this gives me a feeling of security, even though I come here so often to rant and complain about my job and my coworkers.
Can you believe I’m thinking about politely asking this manager if we can work things out? I must really be bipolar.
I don’t understand why I’m so incoherent. I’m the drama queen now.
I feel like a child who postured and lost.
Every crisis is an opportunity, people say, but even though I should think like this and boldly leave, I’m scared that my new position will be as bad or worse than the old one, the same drama, the same backstabbing and playing favorites. It would be really tiring to get out of the frying pan to get into the fire.
It’s become clear that you and the manager are not compatible. It may or may not be a reflection on either of you, but it’s definitely not a good fit either way.
The best way to resolve a bad fit like this is to separate the pieces. Since they are the manager, that typically leaves it to you as the employee.
This isn’t even a bad thing, necessarily. Switching jobs brings uncertainty and fear, but also opportunity. Not only do you have a chance to get into a situation more to your liking, you can branch out into new areas. These jumps also usually bring a pay bump, although that depends on how patient you can be and how hard you can negotiate.
There’s a quote that has stuck with me for a while, and I encourage you to take it to heart.
You’re scared of the unknown, and understandably so. But it also doesn’t sound like you’ve even looked into it. I can promise you don’t currently have the only job that would work for you. It’s also very unlikely that you have the best one. You probably don’t even have the best one you could have by Xmas.
Go explore. The future is rosier than you think, if only you let it happen.