Got lucky with a girl I met through a friend’s girlfriend that I am absolutely in love with but I couldn’t get it up when things got heated. Stayed over at hers but didn’t even get morning wood the day after, only semis over night. Also haven’t had a boner for 3 days now.

She’s actually texted me back more than once after the incident, so I think she might still be ok wil me, but I feel like I should apologise or something. I don’t want to force things but I also don’t want to lose her. Should I apologise?

Also I’ve looked at porn for like 13 years and was getting unwanted hard ons with no effort literally the same week this happened. And I tried looking at porn later (to check if it was porn brain) and my dick remained soft until I touched it (even then it wasn’t like like it nromally is). WTF? Could I have got ED literally the one time I was on the verge of getting laid? Safe to say, I will not be looking at porn again.

  • DarkThoughts@fedia.io
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    4 months ago
    1. How much / often do you masturbate? If lots, then keep your hands to yourself for a week+.
    2. Chances are you failed because you were thinking about it too much, stressing yourself out. This can be pretty much a bit of a death spiral btw.
    3. If you’re really worried, get yourself checked out by a doctor to at least rule out any potential physical concerns.

    As for the girl… Have you not responded to her since then? If so I’d definitely apologize for that and then just explain the situation and that you’re feeling insecure about it.