She described an interaction that she was present for and how she read it. You were not there, and so instead of reading the actual situation, you are imagining what it could have been like and wondering why she didn’t interpret it in any of those ways. That makes no sense.
they’ll probably understand and respect that."
You’re right, they probably will! Except the small percentage that don’t and become so dangerous that women feel the need to shut any man down, just in case.
Correct, I do not trust this person’s ability to accurately read the emotional expressions of other people, given that she entirely invented a motive of the other person, with no provided evidence to justify this other person’s motive as being actually real, and then interpreted/framed the entire story using this as a narrative device.
There are reasons why eyewitness testimony is considered the lowest quality of evidence in both legal and scientific settings: our memories are highly malleable and innacurate, this is affected by many factors.
This person is literally the definition of an unreliable narrator.
Yeah, you know your own inner thoughts, with high to perfect accuracy.
You cannot mind read someone else’s intentions and inner thoughts to anywhere near that same level of accuracy, especially not without explanation.
When you interpret other people’s actions through the lense of what you assume they are thinking, their presumed motivations, you are projecting your expectations onto them, and your experience of them is then molded around this.
Also, entirely random, stranger v stranger, male on female violence, is considerably more rare than say, the likelihood an average person will be injured or die in a car accident, or even die from a serious fall… or entirely random, stranger v stranger, male on male violence.
Male on female violence is a serious problem, but this is between men and women who know each other and are not strangers, who are family members, coworkers, partners, ex-partners, etc.
She states, in the OP story, that she imagines this guy had ‘manic pixi dream girl hopes’, in regards to herself.
So, it is probably reasonable to assume that she is ‘she’, or at the very least, is feminine presenting.
You can also just see that the profile pic is low res, but appears to depict a young woman.
Reading comprehension, attention to detail, is all I needed here.
Also, I don’t know how it would be a ‘power move’ to search for publically available information, on the internet, to ascertain more context.
I guess if her account were locked down and I literally hacked into being able to see it, that would be a bit nuts, but… afaik most stuff on tumblr is just public, but I don’t really know, never really used it.
…maybe don’t jump right to being so incredibly, conspiratorially critical of people, assuming things about them and fabricating insinuations of things they’ve done.
It takes honesty to admit a mistake, that’s admirable.
Maybe slow down a bit, make sure you got the details correct, next time you feel an urge to be very critical of someone?
Everybody makes conjectures and assumptions based on limited context in nearly every thing they ever experience.
I’m Autistic, so I’m highly aware of the assumptions I am making, and why I am making them.
It just takes me longer to fully think through them, which is often too slow for ‘normal’ conversation tempo, but when I have time to think and fully explain myself… I’m very analytical and detail oriented.
Yes, your explanation was really good! Mind you, I think there’s like 99% of a chance you’re right. I just don’t think something that’s not directly confirmed should be treated as granted
She described an interaction that she was present for and how she read it. You were not there, and so instead of reading the actual situation, you are imagining what it could have been like and wondering why she didn’t interpret it in any of those ways. That makes no sense.
You’re right, they probably will! Except the small percentage that don’t and become so dangerous that women feel the need to shut any man down, just in case.
Fucking seriously. Internet armchair psychiatrists are nuts.
Correct, I do not trust this person’s ability to accurately read the emotional expressions of other people, given that she entirely invented a motive of the other person, with no provided evidence to justify this other person’s motive as being actually real, and then interpreted/framed the entire story using this as a narrative device.
There are reasons why eyewitness testimony is considered the lowest quality of evidence in both legal and scientific settings: our memories are highly malleable and innacurate, this is affected by many factors.
This person is literally the definition of an unreliable narrator.
Yeah, you know your own inner thoughts, with high to perfect accuracy.
You cannot mind read someone else’s intentions and inner thoughts to anywhere near that same level of accuracy, especially not without explanation.
When you interpret other people’s actions through the lense of what you assume they are thinking, their presumed motivations, you are projecting your expectations onto them, and your experience of them is then molded around this.
Also, entirely random, stranger v stranger, male on female violence, is considerably more rare than say, the likelihood an average person will be injured or die in a car accident, or even die from a serious fall… or entirely random, stranger v stranger, male on male violence.
Male on female violence is a serious problem, but this is between men and women who know each other and are not strangers, who are family members, coworkers, partners, ex-partners, etc.
It’s… a story
Did you honest to god look up that person’s Tumblr account to ascertain their gender? That is one hell of a power move
No.
She states, in the OP story, that she imagines this guy had ‘manic pixi dream girl hopes’, in regards to herself.
So, it is probably reasonable to assume that she is ‘she’, or at the very least, is feminine presenting.
You can also just see that the profile pic is low res, but appears to depict a young woman.
Reading comprehension, attention to detail, is all I needed here.
Also, I don’t know how it would be a ‘power move’ to search for publically available information, on the internet, to ascertain more context.
I guess if her account were locked down and I literally hacked into being able to see it, that would be a bit nuts, but… afaik most stuff on tumblr is just public, but I don’t really know, never really used it.
I assumed the GUY was the manic pixie dream girl
If you are acknowledging that you misread it… ok…
…maybe don’t jump right to being so incredibly, conspiratorially critical of people, assuming things about them and fabricating insinuations of things they’ve done.
It takes honesty to admit a mistake, that’s admirable.
Maybe slow down a bit, make sure you got the details correct, next time you feel an urge to be very critical of someone?
I also admire your honesty in admitting that your assumption of that user’s gender was based on conjecture (albeit plausible)
Everybody makes conjectures and assumptions based on limited context in nearly every thing they ever experience.
I’m Autistic, so I’m highly aware of the assumptions I am making, and why I am making them.
It just takes me longer to fully think through them, which is often too slow for ‘normal’ conversation tempo, but when I have time to think and fully explain myself… I’m very analytical and detail oriented.
Yes, your explanation was really good! Mind you, I think there’s like 99% of a chance you’re right. I just don’t think something that’s not directly confirmed should be treated as granted
The “manic pixie dream girl” part of the story gives that away.